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1. “All children should be taught to unconditionally accept, approve, admire, appreciate, forgive, trust, and ultimately, love their own person.”

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Author : Asa Don Brown

2. “Writing started out as a kind of therapy for me. I was bullied mercilessly in high school, and I lived vicariously through Kitty. She was everything I wanted to be; strong, smart, witty, and above all else, she didn't care what other people thought about her. But after a while, she started to take on a personality of her own, and I was suddenly more interested in her story than I was in mine.”

Tags : Author Heaven Bound Hell Hunted Kitty Therapy Writing
Author : Caitlin Elyse

3. “If the sound of happy children is grating on your ears, I don't think it's the children who need to be adjusted.”

Tags : Child Abuse Childhood Trauma Freedom Parenting Peaceful Parenting Psychology Ptsd Relationships Self Esteem Self Knowledge Therapy Trauma Unconscious

4. “The open road. Seemingly my only friend for years upon end since leaving war. The road embraced me, let me breathe, and more importantly, did not judge me.”

Tags : On The Road Ptsd The Desert Warrior Therapy Travel

5. “To embrace love, we risk heartbreak. To resist love, we risk emptiness.”

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Author : Jennifer Lane
Source : Aced

6. “Dr. Talbon was struck by another very important thing. It all hung together. The stories Cheryl told — even though it was upsetting to think people could do stuff like that — they were not disjointed They were not repetitive in terms of "I've heard this before". It was not just she'd someone trying consciously or unconsciously to get attention. really processed them out and was done with them. She didn't come up with them again [after telling the story once and dealing with it]. Once it was done, it was done. And I think that was probably the biggest factor for me in her believability. I got no sense that she was using these stories to make herself a really interesting person to me so I'd really want to work with her, or something. Or that she was just living in this stuff like it was her life. Once she dealt with it and processed it, it was gone. We just went on to other things. 'Throughout the whole thing, emotionally Cheryl was getting her life together. Parts of her were integrating where she could say,"I have a sense that some particular alter has folded in with some basic alter", and she didn't bring it up again. She didn't say that this alter has reappeared to cause more problems. That just didn't happen. The therapist had learned from training and experience that when real integration occurs, it is permanent and the patient moves on.”

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Author : Cheryl Hersha
Source : Secret Weapons: How Two Sisters Were Brainwashed To Kill For Their Country

7. “So on a scale of one to Adele, how bad was this breakup?”

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Author : Jennifer Lane
Source : Aced

8. “The shame, embarrassment, feeling of low self-worth, and scores of "labels" we give ourselves are not fitting. I am beginning to see how I had no control over the situation. He was a big man, I was a little boy.”

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Source : In the Shadow of the Cross

9. “It wasn't a sign of weakness to tell what happened to me. I feel guilt no longer, only regret. The other emotions are coming around too. How much further do I need to go? I'm not sure, but there is comfort in the fact that I am in the hands of expert guides, both in the doctor's office and at home with Sue.”

Tags : Clergy Abuse Guilt Healing Journey Onion Painful Priest Priest Abuse Protection Psychologist Psychotherapy Rape Recovery Regret Sexdual Abuse Sexual Assault Survivor Survivors Of Abuse Therapy Victim
Source : In the Shadow of the Cross

10. “Of course, I should have known the kids would pop out in the atmosphere of Roberta's office. That's what they do when Alice is under stress. They see a gap in the space-time continuum and slip through like beams of light through a prism changing form and direction. We had got into the habit in recent weeks of starting our sessions with that marble and stick game called Ker-Plunk, which Billy liked. There were times when I caught myself entering the office with a teddy that Samuel had taken from the toy cupboard outside. Roberta told me that on a couple of occasions I had shot her with the plastic gun and once, as Samuel, I had climbed down from the high-tech chairs, rolled into a ball in the corner and just cried. 'This is embarrassing,' I admitted. 'It doesn't have to be.''It doesn't have to be, but it is,' I said.The thing is. I never knew when the 'others' were going to come out. I only discovered that one had been out when I lost time or found myself in the midst of some wacky occupation — finger-painting like a five-year-old, cutting my arms, wandering from shops with unwanted, unpaid-for clutter.In her reserved way, Roberta described the kids as an elaborate defence mechanism. As a child, I had blocked out my memories in order not to dwell on anything painful or uncertain. Even as a teenager, I had allowed the bizarre and terrifying to seem normal because the alternative would have upset the fiction of my loving little nuclear family.I made a mental note to look up defence mechanisms, something we had touched on in psychology.”

Tags : Alter Personalities Alters Dissociation Dissociative Dissociative Identity Disorder Embarrassment Mental Health Mental Illness Multiple Personality Disorder Psychologist Psychology Self Stigma Split Personality Stigma Therapist Therapy
Source : Today I'm Alice: Nine Personalities, One Tortured Mind

11. “There were times when I would sob until I shook, until my eyelids were so swollen that it pained me to open them, and through hiccoughs, trembling, I would hiss, don’t touch me! as he moved to place a gentle hand on my shoulder. There were times when we seemed locked into our chairs, discrete, the static between us more eloquent than words. But there was never a moment when I doubted Peter’s ability to heal me.”

Tags : Abuse Anxiety Depression Healing Pain Psychiatrist Psychologist Therapy
Source : Mama: Dispatches from the Frontline of Love

12. “For a while she had a vague longing to be a psychologist. “Talking therapy is dead,” Gary said when she raised the idea. “It’s all pills now.”

Tags : Pills Psychologist Therapy
Source : The Wisdom of Perversity

13. “As I let it out, layer by layer, Dr. Driscoll helped with the bumps and valleys. He knew just how much to draw out of me and how much I could handle. He is such an expert in his profession. He told me that the guilt I was feeling was not guilt, but regret. Guilt is a good thing. It is a mechanism by which we shouldn't make the same mistake twice. If you do something questionable, then the next chance you get to do it, guilt should stop you. I had no guilt. I had regrets, many regrets, but no guilt. It took some convincing, but he prevailed. There was always a nagging in my head, that if only I had had the guts to kill Neary myself, it would have stopped him from harming others, but that was not to be as a small boy. It does hurt that, maybe, just maybe, if I had carried out one of my many plans to kill him and myself then I could have saved victims younger than I. As victims come forward from almost all the churches where he served—and some are twenty—five plus years my junior—I feel that they would have been spared, if only I hadn't chickened out as a boy. Therein lies the answer; I was a little boy, a ten—year—old boy. Other victims of Neary were as young as six.”

Tags : Blame Clergy Abuse Guilt Healing Journey Onion Painful Priest Priest Abuse Protection Psychologist Psychotherapy Rape Recovery Regret Sexdual Abuse Sexual Assault Survivor Therapy Victim
Source : In the Shadow of the Cross

14. “Forget what we became, focus on what we're capable of becoming.”

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15. “The moment you realise your nature is love, you'll stop looking for a reason to express love.”

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16. “When passion meets work, work becomes a hobby.”

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17. “Our wounds are often the openings into the best and most beautiful part of us.”

Tags : Healing Inspiration Pain Psychology Relationships Therapy
Author : David Richo

18. “I'm fine. Well, I'm not fine - I'm here.""Is there something wrong with that?""Absolutely.”

Tags : Depression Sadness Suicide Therapy
Author : Ned Vizzini
Source : It's Kind of a Funny Story

19. “Writing is a form of therapy; sometimes I wonder how all those who do not write, compose, or paint can manage to escape the madness, melancholia, the panic and fear which is inherent in a human situation.”

Tags : Escape Life Therapy Writing
Author : Graham Greene
Source : Ways Of Escape

20. “He thrusts his fists against the posts and still insists he sees the ghosts.”

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Author : Stephen King
Source : It

21. “Courage doesn’t happen when you have all the answers. It happens when you are ready to face the questions you have been avoiding your whole life.”

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22. “Think of your head as an unsafe neighborhood; don't go there alone.”

Tags : Introspection Therapy
Source : Dry

23. “Some seek the comfort of their therapist's office, other head to the corner pub and dive into a pint, but I chose running as my therapy.”

Tags : Mental Health Running Sports Therapy
Author : Dean Karnazes
Source : Ultramarathon Man: Confessions of an All-Night Runner

24. “I don't-" I shake my head. (...) "What? What were you going to say?" This is another trick of shrinks. They never let you stop in midthought. If you open your mouth, they want to know exactly what you had the intention of saying.”

Tags : Depression Sadness Suicide Therapy
Author : Ned Vizzini
Source : It's Kind of a Funny Story

25. “I wish you'd help me look into a more interesting problem - namely, my sanity.”

Tags : Insanity Therapy
Author : Kurt Vonnegut
Source : Welcome to the Monkey House

26. “I have come to believe that by and large the human family all has the same secrets, which are both very telling and very important to tell. They are telling in the sense that they tell what is perhaps the central paradox of our condition—that what we hunger for perhaps more than anything else is to be known in our full humanness, and yet that is often just what we also fear more than anything else. It is important to tell at least from time to time the secret of who we truly and fully are—even if we tell it only to ourselves—because otherwise we run the risk of losing track of who we truly and fully are and little by little come to accept instead the highly edited version which we put forth in hope that the world will find it more acceptable than the real thing. It is important to tell our secrets too because it makes it easier that way to see where we have been in our lives and where we are going. It also makes it easier for other people to tell us a secret or two of their own, and exchanges like that have a lot to do with what being a family is all about and what being human is all about.”

Tags : Therapy
Source : Telling Secrets

27. “People who are diagnosed as having "generalized anxiety disorder" are afflicted by three major problems that many of us experience to a lesser extent from time to time. First and foremost, says Rapgay, the natural human inclination to focus on threats and bad news is strongly amplified in them, so that even significant positive events get suppressed. An inflexible mentality and tendency toward excessive verbalizing make therapeutic intervention a further challenge.”

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Source : Rapt: Attention and the Focused Life

28. “One of the things that therapists do if you are suicidal, like a trick, is ask you about the future. They want to know what your plans are. Do you want to be the president? Do you want to be a rock star? They want to know if you want to live later even if you want to die now.”

Tags : Depression Future Suicide Therapy
Author : Albert Borris
Source : Crash Into Me

29. “In Hollywood if you don't have a shrink, people think you're crazy.”

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Author : Johnny Carson

30. “It's difficult. I take a low dose of lithium nightly. I take an antidepressant for my darkness because prayer isn't enough. My therapist hears confession twice a month, my shrink delivers the host, and I can stand in the woods and see the world spark.”

Tags : Bipolar Depression Lithium Manic Depression Medication Therapy
Source : Scattershot: My Bipolar Family

31. “I had problems a therapist couldn't solve; grief that no man in a room could ameliorate.”

Tags : Grief Therapy
Source : Wild: From Lost to Found on the Pacific Crest Trail

32. “After a while Mary said, “Zsadist?”“Yeah?”“What are those markings?”His frowned and flicked his eyes over to her, thinking, as if she didn’t know? But then . . . well, she had been a human. Maybe she didn’t. “They’re slave bands. I was . . . a slave.”“Did it hurt when they were put on you?”“Yes.”“Did the same person who cut your face give them to you?”“No, my owner’s hellren did that. My owner . . . she put the bands on me. He was the one who cut my face.”“How long were you a slave?”“A hundred years.”“How did you get free?”“Phury. Phury got me out. That’s how he lost his leg.”“Were you hurt while you were a slave?”Z swallowed hard. “Yes.”“Do you still think about it?”“Yes.” He looked down at his hands, which suddenly were in pain for some reason. Oh, right. He’d made twofists and was squeezing them so tightly his fingers were about to snap off at the knuckles.“Does slavery still happen?”“No. Wrath outlawed it. As a mating gift to me and Bella.”“What kind of slave were you?”Zsadist shut his eyes. Ah, yes, the question he didn’t want to answer. For a while it was all he could do to force himself to stay in the chair. But then, in a falsely level voice, he said,“I was a blood slave. I was used by a female for blood.”The quiet after he spoke bore down on him, a tangible weight.“Zsadist? Can I put my hand on your back?”His head did something that was evidently a nod, because Mary’s gentle palm came down lightly on hisshoulder blade. She moved it in a slow, easy circle.“Those are the right answers,” she said. “All of them.”He had to blink fast as the fire in the furnace’s window became blurry. “You think?” he said hoarsely.“No. I know.”

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Author : J.R. Ward
Source : Father Mine

33. “In my early professional years I was asking the question: How can I treat, or cure, or change this person? Now I would phrase the question in this way: How can I provide a relationship which this person may use for his own personal growth?”

Tags : Healing Psychology Psychotherapy Self Knowledge Therapy

34. “I've realized therapy is incredibly therapeutic.”

Tags : Therapy
Source : I Heart You, You Haunt Me

35. “Talking to a therapist, I thought, was like taking your clothes off and then taking your skin off, and then having the other person say, "Would you mind opening up your rib cage so that we can start?”

Tags : Depression Therapy Truth
Source : Black Box

36. “By marrying to soon, many individuals sacrifice their chance to struggle through this purgatory of solitude and search toward a greater sense of self-confidence. They glance at the world outside the family and with hardly a second thought grasp anxiously for a partner. In marriage they seek a substitute for the security of the family of origin and an escape from aloneness. What they do not realize is that moving so quickly from one family to another, they make it easy to transfer to the new marriage all their difficult experiences in the family of origin. ”

Tags : Family Therapy
Source : The Family Crucible

37. “[Children] just cannot be sad too long, it is not in them, as children mourn in little bits here and there like patchwork in their lives.”

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Source : These Is My Words: The Diary of Sarah Agnes Prine, 1881-1901

38. “The cases described in this section (The Fear of Being) may seem extreme, but I have become convinced that they are not as uncommon as one would think. Beneath the seemingly rational exterior of our lives is a fear of insanity. We dare not question the values by which we live or rebel against the roles we play for fear of putting our sanity into doubt. We are like the inmates of a mental institution who must accept its inhumanity and insensitivity as caring and knowledgeableness if they hope to be regarded as sane enough to leave. The question who is sane and who is crazy was the theme of the novel One Flew Over The Cuckoo's Nest. The question, what is sanity? was clearly asked in the play Equus.The idea that much of what we do is insane and that if we want to be sane, we must let ourselves go crazy has been strongly advanced by R.D. Laing. In the preface to the Pelican edition of his book The Divided Self, Laing writes: "In the context of our present pervasive madness that we call normality, sanity, freedom, all of our frames of reference are ambiguous and equivocal." And in the same preface: "Thus I would wish to emphasize that our 'normal' 'adjusted' state is too often the abdication of ecstasy, the betrayal of our true potentialities; that many of us are only too successful in acquiring a false self to adapt to false realities."Wilhelm Reich had a somewhat similar view of present-day human behavior. Thus Reich says, "Homo normalis blocks off entirely the perception of basic orgonotic functioning by means of rigid armoring; in the schizophrenic, on the other hand, the armoring practically breaks down and thus the biosystem is flooded with deep experiences from the biophysical core with which it cannot cope." The "deep experiences" to which Reich refers are the pleasurable streaming sensations associated with intense excitation that is mainly sexual in nature. The schizophrenic cannot cope with these sensations because his body is too contracted to tolerate the charge. Unable to "block" the excitation or reduce it as a neurotic can, and unable to "stand" the charge, the schizophrenic is literally "driven crazy."But the neurotic does not escape so easily either. He avoids insanity by blocking the excitation, that is, by reducing it to a point where there is no danger of explosion, or bursting. In effect the neurotic undergoes a psychological castration. However, the potential for explosive release is still present in his body, although it is rigidly guarded as if it were a bomb. The neurotic is on guard against himself, terrified to let go of his defenses and allow his feelings free expression. Having become, as Reich calls him, "homo normalis," having bartered his freedom and ecstasy for the security of being "well adjusted," he sees the alternative as "crazy." And in a sense he is right. Without going "crazy," without becoming "mad," so mad that he could kill, it is impossible to give up the defenses that protect him in the same way that a mental institution protects its inmates from self-destruction and the destruction of others.”

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Source : Fear of Life

39. “I think therapy is a rather misguided notion of capitalist societies whereby the self-indulgent examination of one's life supersedes the actual living of said life.”

Tags : Humor Therapy
Author : Peter Cameron
Source : Someday This Pain Will Be Useful to You

40. “And so, it is not astonishing that, though the patient enters therapy insisting that he wants to change, more often than not, what he really wants is to remain the same and to get the therapist to make him feel better. (4)”

Tags : Therapy
Source : If You Meet the Buddha on the Road, Kill Him: The Pilgrimage Of Psychotherapy Patients

41. “The toxic behaviors were there before you decided to enter into relationships with them. The signs were there. You may have chosen to look the other way, but the signs were there.—Psychotherapist from Type 1 Sociopath”

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Author : P.A. Speers
Source : Type 1 Sociopath - When Difficult People Are More Than Just Difficult People

42. “I don’t have any regrets,” a famous movie actor said in an interview I recently witnessed. “I’d live everything over exactly the same way.” “That’s really pathetic,” the talk show host said. “Are you seeking help?” “Yeah. My shrink says we’re making progress. Before, I wouldn’t even admit that I would live it all over,” the actor said, starting to choke up. “I thought one life was satisfying enough.” “My God,” the host said, cupping his hand to his mouth. “The first breakthrough was when I said I would live it over, but only in my dreams. Nocturnal recurrence.” “You’re like the character in that one movie of yours. What’s it called? You know, the one where you eat yourself.”“The Silence of Sam.”“That’s it. Can you do the scene?”The actor lifts up his foot to stick it in his mouth. I reach over from my seat and help him to fit it into his bulging cheeks. The audience goes wild.”

Tags : Bizarre Celebrity Funny Regret Therapy
Author : Benson Bruno
Source : A Story That Talks about Talking Is Like Chatter to Chattering Teeth, and Every Set of Dentures Can Attest to the Fact That No..

43. “It is painful to face the self we know we have never had the integrity to honor and assert.”

Tags : Healing Psychology Self Esteem Therapy

44. “Are you repeating someone else's narrative, taking it for granted? Talk therapy sessions and 12-step recovery shares help develop the ability to present a coherent life narrative through the safe structure of clear rules of communication that support healthy self-expression and self-awareness.”

Tags : 12 Step Coherent Narrative Communication Narrative Self Awareness Self Expression Therapy
Source : Mirror of Intimacy: Daily Reflections on Emotional and Erotic Intelligence

45. “Families come into therapy with their own structure, and tone, and rules. Their organization, their pattern, has been established over years of living, and it is extremely meaningful and very painful for them. They would not be in therapy if they were happy with it. But however faulty, the family counts on the familiarity and predictability of their world. If they are going to turn loose this painful predictability and attempt to reorganize themselves, they need firm external support. The family crucible must has a shape, a form, a discipline of sorts, and the therapist has to provide it. The family has to know whether we can provide it, and so they test us.”

Tags : Counseling Family Family Therapy Psychology Therapy
Source : The Family Crucible

46. “The individual psychotherapy patient comes to the therapist with an almost automatic deference, a sense of dependence and compliance. The role pattern is old and established: the dependent child seeking guidance from a parent figure. There is no such traditional image for the family, no established pattern in which an entire family submits to the guidance of an individual. And the family structure is simply too powerful and too crucial for the members to go trustingly into an experience that threatens to change the entire matrix of their relationships. If the family therapist is to acquire that initial "authority figure" or "parent" role that is so necessary if therapy is to be more powerful than an ordinary social experience, he has to earn it.”

Tags : Counseling Family Family Therapy Psychology Therapy
Source : The Family Crucible

47. “It has been a long road for us as family therapists to reach an understanding of just this phenomenon-the sense of the whole, the family system. While we could have explained the theory of meeting with the whole family to the Brices, at that anxious moment it would not have touched them. There are situations where, in the words of Franz Alexander, the woice of the intellent is too soft. The family needed to test us. They needed the experience of our being firm. As unpleasant as it was, our response must have reassured them. They knew, and we sensed, how difficult their situation was and how tumultuous it could become. They simply has to know that we could withstand the stress if they dared open it up.”

Tags : Counseling Family Family Therapy Psychology Therapy
Source : The Family Crucible

48. “When Carl asked the Brices to bring their whole family to therapy, everyone in the family knew intuitively what that meant. Their whole world would be exposed: all its caring, its history, its anger, its anxiety. All in one place at once time, subject to the scrutiny and invasion of a stranger. And that was too much vulnerability. With its own unconscious wisdom, the family elected Don to stay home and test the therapists. Did we really mean everybody? Would we weaken and capitulate if they didn't bring Don?They had something to gain by the strategy. If we were hesitant and unconfident in our approach to their defiance, they would know that they could not trust us with the boiling cauldron of feeling which their family contained. If we were decisive and firm, they would guess that maybe we could handle the stresses which they intuitively knew had to be brought out into the open. One way or another, they had to find out how much power we had. In the meantime, they postponed facing that mysterious electricity, that critical mass, the whole family. Perhaps they thought they could be spared what Zorba called the full catastrophe.”

Tags : Counseling Family Family Therapy Psychology Therapy
Source : The Family Crucible

49. “Even though we were still waiting for Don, therapy was well begun. We were engaged in a subtle, often predictable, and very important contest with the family about who was going to be present at the meetings. Carl and I had revealed some of what our relationship had to offer: a good-humored liking for each other, an ability to cooperate, and an insistence on remaining ourselves. I was clearly not going to be the reverential assistant to the older man. And perhaps most important, Carl had intuitively modeled some of the process of therapy for the family. By sharing insight into his own personality, he was saying by demonstration, "It's important to search for you own unconscious agenda.”

Tags : Counseling Family Family Therapy Psychology Therapy

50. “It’s not conversion 'therapy;' it’s conversion brainwashing.”

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51. “How can you get through to yourself?”

Tags : Self Awareness Self Esteem Self Realization Self Talk Therapy
Source : Mirror of Intimacy: Daily Reflections on Emotional and Erotic Intelligence

52. “When the expected occurred, never panic, by keep calming, you gain control over the situation.”

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Source : Pearls of Wisdom: Great mind

53. “First, the physiological symptoms of post-traumatic stress disorder have been brought within manageable limits. Second, the person is able to bear the feelings associated with traumatic memories. Third, the person has authority over her memories; she can elect both to remember the trauma and to put memory aside. Fourth, the memory of the traumatic event is a coherent narrative, linked with feeling. Fifth, the person's damaged self-esteem has been restored. Sixth, the person's important relationships have been reestablished. Seventh and finally, the person has reconstructed a coherent system of meaning and belief that encompasses the story of trauma.”

Tags : Complex Ptsd Healing Healing Abuse Healing Process Post Traumatic Stress Disorder Posttraumatic Stress Disorder Psychotherapy Ptsd Recovery Recovery From Abuse Therapy Trauma Trauma Therapy Traumatic Stress
Source : Trauma and Recovery: The Aftermath of Violence - From Domestic Abuse to Political Terror

54. “As you may already know, post-traumatic stress disorder is extremely complex. Each client has a unique, perhaps virtually unbelievable, set of experiences, and an almost equally set of reactions to those experiences.”

Tags : Abuse Survivors Counseling Denial Disbelief Mental Health Posttraumatic Stress Disorder Psychotherapy Ptsd Society Denial Therapy Trauma Survivors Traumatic Experiences Unbelievable
Source : Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder: A Complete Treatment Guide

55. “It [treating trauma] may even cause you to reconsider some of your previous views of the world and to revise your sociopolitical perspectives.”

Tags : Disbelief Preconceived Ideas Preconceptions Ptsd Society Denial Therapy World View
Source : Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder: A Complete Treatment Guide

56. “Frosh (2002) has suggested that therapeutic spaces provide children and adults with the rare opportunity to articulate experiences that are otherwise excluded from the dominant symbolic order. However, since the 1990s, post-modern and post-structural theory has often been deployed in ways that attempt to ‘manage’ from; afar the perturbing disclosures of abuse and trauma that arise in therapeutic spaces (Frosh 2002). Nowhere is this clearer than in relation to organised abuse, where the testimony of girls and women has been deconstructed as symptoms of cultural hysteria (Showalter 1997) and the colonisation of women’s minds by therapeutic discourse (Hacking 1995). However, behind words and discourse, ‘a real world and real lives do exist, howsoever we interpret, construct and recycle accounts of these by a variety of symbolic means’ (Stanley 1993: 214). Summit (1994: 5) once described organised abuse as a ‘subject of smoke and mirrors’, observing the ways in which it has persistently defied conceptualisation or explanation. Explanations for serious or sadistic child sex offending have typically rested on psychiatric concepts of ‘paedophilia’ or particular psychological categories that have limited utility for the study of the cultures of sexual abuse that emerge in the families or institutions in which organised abuse takes pace. For those clinicians and researchers who take organised abuse seriously, their reliance upon individualistic rather than sociological explanations for child sexual abuse has left them unable to explain the emergence of coordinated, and often sadistic, multi—perpetrator sexual abuse in a range of contexts around the world.”

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Source : Organised Sexual Abuse

57. “Because the problem of ritual abuse and mind control has not gone away - the survivors are still there - many more therapists have learnt about it. Survivors have spoken out and written their stories, and therapists have learnt a great deal from those brave survivors who have discovered what was done to them. There is a large special interest group on Ritual Abuse and Mind Control within the International Society for the Study of Dissociation. Those therapists who have learnt in isolation or in small private online forums are once again sharing their knowledge widely, and books such as this one are beginning to be published again. The work is still very difficult and challenging, but we now know so much more than we did. We know that there is not one massive Satanic cult, but many different interrelated groups, including religious, military/political, and organized crime, using mind control on children and adult survivors. We know that there are effective treatments. We know that many of the paralyzing beliefs our clients lived by are the results of lies and tricks perpetrated by their abusers. And we know that, as therapists, we can combat this evil with wise and compassionate therapy.”

Tags : Abuse Abusers Criminal Gangs Cult Cults Disinformation Government Abuse Lies Manipulation Mind Control Organized Crime Perpetrators Psychological Abuse Psychology Ritual Abuse Satanic Satanic Cult Satanic Ritual Abuse Society Denial Survivors Therapists Therapy Treatment Tricks
Author : Alison Miller
Source : Healing the Unimaginable: Treating Ritual Abuse and Mind Control

58. “The first generation of therapists doing this work were told by their clients that the one massive cult was everywhere, knew everything, had access to state-of-the-art technology, and was willing to kill both clients and therapists to stop the information from getting out." []"The reality is that even before stories of ritual abuse and mind control began coming out to therapists, the groups had agreed on what kind of disinformation to spread, so that clients would be afraid to tell their therapists what had happened to them, and therapists would be afraid to work with these clients." [ ]"We know that there is not one massive Satanic cult, but many different interrelated groups, including religious, military/political, and organized crime, using mind control on children and adult survivors. We know that there are effective treatments. We know that many of the paralyzing beliefs our clients lived by are the results of lies and tricks perpetrated by their abusers.”

Tags : Abusers Beliefs Conspiracy Crime Deceit Disinformation Lies Mind Control Organized Crime Ritual Abuse Satanic Ritual Abuse Sra Therapy Tricks
Author : Alison Miller
Source : Healing the Unimaginable: Treating Ritual Abuse and Mind Control

59. “The moment you have to recruit people to put another person down, in order to convince someone of your value is the day you dishonor your children, your parents and your God. If someone doesn't see your worth the problem is them, not people outside your relationship.”

Tags : Comparison Cruel Disallusioned Empowering Girls Evil Hateful Haters Husbands Immature In Denial Insecure Insecurity Issues Men Mentally Biased Revenge Rise Up Self Confidence Self Love Shallow Stalkers Therapy Vengeful Victomizer Wives Women Empowerment

60. “I write because it's the only thing I love that always loves me back.”

Tags : Authors Best Feelings Life Love Reciprocation Self Love Therapy Writing
Author : Crystal Woods
Source : Write like no one is reading

61. “In the cult, the people in power dictate what cult members are to do. Children raised in cults are systematically stripped of their own autonomous power and forced to feel powerful only in the destructive context allowed by the cult, and always under the power of the leader. Ritual abuse survivors have had to learn to be outer oriented - to perceive what is expected of them and do that, whether it is healthy for them or not. When a therapist creates a context in which he or she is the leader, and the client is to listen, learn, and follow what the therapist says, the therapist has inadvertently replicated the power system of the cult.That is not to say that the therapist has no power; the therapist has a lot of power, but the power the therapist has resides in authority based upon his or her expertise, knowledge, training and sensitivity. The point is to use this authority in a way in which the client can also begin to feel his or her own authority, and begin to develop a healthy feeling of power.The word used quite often now is "empowerment." How do you empower a client?”

Tags : Coaching Cult Abuse Dissociative Identity Disorder Misuse Of Authority Misuse Of Power Mutual Respect Power Dynamics Powerlessness Psychotherapy Religious Abuse Ritual Abuse Satanic Ritual Abuse Sra Therapist Therapy

62. “Loss is only temporary when you believe in God!”

Tags : Bereavement Counseling Death Of A Loved One Faith Faith In God God Grief Grief And Loss Grief And Regret Grief Inspirational Grief Inspirational Bereavement Grief Quotes Grief Support Hope Jesus Loss Loss Of A Baby Loss Of A Child Loss Of Family Loss Of Love Loss Of Parent Mourning Spirituality Quotes Therapy
Author : Latoya Alston

63. “You can’t selectively numb your anger, any more than you can turn off all lights in a room, and still expect to see the light.”

Tags : Anger Management Communicating Compassion Coping Dealing Dealing With Pain Disappointments Feeling Feelings God Healing Holding Back Feelings Hurt Ignoring Learning Letting Go Letting It Out Loving Numbing Opening Up Sermons Therapy Understanding

64. “Babies have the power to make grumpy people happy because they love you no matter what. Dogs are that way, too.”

Tags : Animal Baby Compassion Dog Grumpy Heartwarming Love Power Therapy Therapy Dogs
Source : Invisible Girl

65. “In projecting onto others their own moral sense, therapists sometimes make terrible errors. Child physical abusers are automatically labeled “impulsive," despite extensive evidence that they are not necessarily impulsive but more often make thinking errors that justify the assaults. Sexual and physical offenders who profess to be remorseful after they are caught are automatically assumed to be sincere. After all, the therapist would feel terrible if he or she did such a thing. It makes perfect sense that the offender would regret abusing a child. People routinely listen to their own moral sense and assume that others share it.Thus, those who are malevolent attack others as being malevolent, as engaging in dirty tricks, as being “in it for the money,“ and those who are well meaning assume others are too, and keep arguing logically, keep producing more studies, keep expecting an academic debate, all the time assuming that the issue at hand is the truth of the matter.Confessions of a Whistle-Blower: Lessons Learned Author: Anna C. Salter. Ethics & Behavior, Volume 8, Issue 2 June 1998 p122”

Tags : Abuser Abusers Child Abuse Child Sexual Abuse Cognitive Distortions Conflict Crime Deception Dirty Tricks Faith False Belief Justifying Violence Malevolent People Moral Standards Morals Overidentification Paedophiles Pedophiles Rapist Remorse Self Centered Sex Offender Trust

66. “You can’t be beaten by something you laugh at.”

Tags : Coping Coping With Change Coping With Life Disability Disability Quotes Laughter Life Lessons Living Living Life Living Life To The Fullest Living Well Mental Health Mental Health Stigma Mental Illness Mental Illness Coping Mental Illness Stigma Optimism Quotes Quotes About Life Quotes Of Life Quotes To Live By Schizophrenia Therapy Therapy Session
Source : Freak

67. “Debriefing-style counseling after a trauma often aggravates a victim's stress-related symptoms, for example, and 4 in 10 bereaved people do better without grief therapy.”

Tags : Attention Focus Therapy Trauma

68. “Happiness is a state of mental,physical and spiritual well-being. Think pleasantly,engaged sport and read daily to enhance your well-being.”

Tags : Exercise Motivation Happiness Choices Happiness Fulfillment Desire Happiness Life Hope And Despair Hope And Healing Mental Health Mindset Positive Outlook Read And Think Reading For Life Reading Quotes Reading Readers Writers Reality Of Life Spiritual Quotes Spiritual Wisdom Therapy Training And Development Wise Quotes
Source : Think Great: Be Great!

69. “While in principle groups for survivors are a good idea, in practice it soon becomes apparent that to organize a successful group is no simple matter. Groups that start out with hope and promise can dissolve acrimoniously, causing pain and disappointment to all involved. The destructive potential of groups is equal to their therapeutic promise. The role of the group leader carries with it a risk of the irresponsible exercise of authority.Conflicts that erupt among group members can all too easily re-create the dynamics of the traumatic event, with group members assuming the roles of perpetrator, accomplice, bystander, victim, and rescuer. Such conflicts can be hurtful to individual participants and can lead to the group’s demise. In order to be successful, a group must have a clear and focused understanding of its therapeutic task and a structure that protects all participants adequately against the dangers of traumatic reenactment. Though groups may vary widely in composition and structure, these basic conditions must be fulfilled without exception.Commonality with other people carries with it all the meanings of the word common. It means belonging to a society, having a public role, being part of that which is universal. It means having a feeling of familiarity, of being known, of communion. It means taking part in the customary, the commonplace, the ordinary, and the everyday. It also carries with it a feeling of smallness, or insignificance, a sense that one’s own troubles are ‘as a drop of rain in the sea.’ The survivor who has achieved commonality with others can rest from her labors. Her recovery is accomplished; all that remains before her is her life.”

Tags : Accomplice Authority Belonging Bystander Conflict Conflict Resolution Connection Group Group Conflict Group Dynamics Group Mentality Group Therapy Groups Healing From Abuse Healing Insights Re Enact Trauma Recovery Supporting Others Survivors Therapy Trauma Therapy Traumatized Victim
Source : Trauma and Recovery: The Aftermath of Violence - From Domestic Abuse to Political Terror

70. “It is such a mistake to assume that practicing dharma will help us calm down and lead an untroubled life; nothing could be further from the truth. Dharma is not a therapy. Quite the opposite, in fact; dharma is tailored specifically to turn your life upside down—it’s what you sign up for. So when your life goes pear-shaped, why do you complain? If you practice and your life fails to capsize, it is a sign that what you are doing is not working. This is what distinguishes the dharma from New Age methods involving auras, relationships, communication, well-being, the Inner Child, being one with the universe, and tree hugging. From the point of view of dharma, such interests are the toys of samsaric beings—toys that quickly bore us senseless.”

Tags : 2012 Buddhism Buddhism Is Not What You Think Chaos Happiness New Age Radical Buddhism Therapy
Source : Not For Happiness: A Guide to the So-Called Preliminary Practices

71. “I routinely use my blue sky "Device" and it works very well for me.”

Tags : Blue Daylight Daytime Device Eye Eyes Fatigue Horizon Light Outdoor Outdoors Photosynthesis Polar Sky Therapy
Author : Steven Magee
Source : Curing Electromagnetic Hypersensitivity

72. “...some patients resist the diagnosis of a post-traumatic disorder. They may feel stigmatized by any psychiatric diagnosis or wish to deny their condition out of a sense of pride. Some people feel that acknowledging psychological harm grants a moral victory to the perpetrator, in a way that acknowledging physical harm does not.”

Tags : Abuse Survivors Defeat Denial Healing Healing From Abuse Labelling Mental Disorder Mental Health Mental Health Stigma Mental Illness Political Refugees Post Traumatic Stress Disorder Posttraumatic Stress Disorder Powerlessness Prejudice Pride Ptsd Recovery Self Stigma Stigma Therapy Torture Survivors Tortured Trauma Traumatic Experiences
Source : Trauma and Recovery: The Aftermath of Violence - From Domestic Abuse to Political Terror

73. “Although it is important to be able to recognise and disclose symptom of physical illnesses or injry, you need to be more careful about revealing psychiatric symptoms. Unless you know that your doctor understands trauma symptoms, including dissociation, you are wise not to reveal too much. Too many medical professionals, including psychiatrists, believe that hearing voices is a sign of schizophrenia, that mood swings mean bipolar disorder which has to be medicated, and that depression requires electro-convulsive therapy if medication does not relieve it sufficiently. The “medical model” simply does not work for dissociation, and many treatments can do more harm than good... You do not have to tell someone everything just because he is she is a doctor. However, if you have a therapist, even a psychiatrist, who does understand, you need to encourage your parts to be honest with that person. Then you can get appropriate help.”

Tags : Bipolar Bipolar Disorder Bipolar Ptsd Ddnos Disclosure Dissociative Disorder Dissociative Identity Disorder Doctors Hearing Voices Lack Of Knowledge Medical Model Mental Illness Misdiagnosis Mood Swings Osdd Psychiatric Drugs Psychotherapist Schizophrenia Stigma Therapist Trust
Author : Alison Miller
Source : Becoming Yourself: Overcoming Mind Control and Ritual Abuse

74. “Admitting the need for help may also compound the survivor's sense of defeat. The therapists Inger Agger and Soren Jensen, who work with political refugees, describe the case of K, a torture survivor with severe post-traumatic symptoms who adamantly insisted that he had no psychological problems: "K...did not understand why he was to talk with a therapist. His problems were medical: the reason why he did not sleep at night was due to the pain in his legs and feet. He was asked by the therapist...about his political background, and K tolld him that he was a Marxist and that he had read about Freud and he did not believe in any of that stuff: how could his pain go away by talking to a therapist?”

Tags : Abuse Survivors Denial Freud Healing Male Survivor Mental Disorder Mental Health Mental Illness Political Refugees Post Traumatic Stress Disorder Posttraumatic Stress Disorder Powerlessness Pride Psychoanalysis Psychology Psychotherapy Ptsd Self Stigma Sigmund Freud Stigma Therapy Torture Survivors Tortured Traumatic Experiences
Source : Trauma and Recovery: The Aftermath of Violence - From Domestic Abuse to Political Terror

75. “Someone mentioned therapy to me once. I read a book instead. ~ Drew Stirling”

Tags : Book Books Comfort Counseling Reading Therapy
Author : Jayden Hunter
Source : Undressed To The Nines: A Thriller Novel

76. “In the Awakenings movie I found it very interesting that the most profound awakenings in the catatonic patients occurred in 1969, the year that the Aurora Borealis was seen from N.Y. to Louisiana. It seems the patients were getting environmental radiation stimulation in addition to their L-Dopa drug that year. L-Dopa plus radiation therapy may eventually be proven to be a very potent brain stimulant.”

Tags : 1969 Addition Aurora Awakenings Borealis Brain Catatonic Drug Environmental Interesting L Dopa Louisiana Movie New Ny Patients Potent Profound Radiation Stimulant Stimulation Therapy Year York
Author : Steven Magee

77. “... once you were in, they put a note in your file that said you were in therapy, and all your teachers saw that file. They might as well have tattooed CRAZY on your forehead. The next year every teacher would be watching you for the first weird thing you did—and has there ever been a kid who never does anything an adult considers weird?”

Tags : Craziness How Things Work Madman Underground Therapy
Author : John Barnes
Source : Tales of the Madman Underground

78. “Non-professionals can also misrepresent the personal characteristics, religious beliefs, and appearance, of these therapists, can name-call and otherwise mock them, and can attribute false agendas to them, such as assigning religious motives to secular therapists working with ritual abuse or mind control survivors.For example, there is little to prevent someone from claiming on his or her own website that a psychotherapist is a fundamentalist Christian zealot at war with Satan, when that therapist might be an atheist, Jew, Buddhist, etc., who places no stock in the existence of Satan. But such a claim, when spoken as if it is fact, accomplishes its intended purpose of maligning that therapist."- Common Forms of Misinformation and Tactics of Disinformation about Psychotherapy for Trauma Originating in Ritual Abuse and Mind Control (2012)”

Tags : Brainwashing Christian Fundamentalists Christian Zealots Disinformation Internet Bias Libel Lies Mind Control Misinformation Mocking Name Calling Psycholotherapists Psycotherapy Religious Beliefs Rumor Satanic Ritual Abuse Slander Therapy

79. “Although it is important to be able to recognise and disclose symptom of physical illnesses or injury, you need to be more careful about revealing psychiatric symptoms. Unless you know that your doctor understands trauma symptoms, including dissociation, you are wise not to reveal too much. Too many medical professionals, including psychiatrists, believe that hearing voices is a sign of schizophrenia, that mood swings mean bipolar disorder which has to be medicated, and that depression requires electro-convulsive therapy if medication does not relieve it sufficiently. The “medical model” simply does not work for dissociation, and many treatments can do more harm than good... You do not have to tell someone everything just because he is she is a doctor. However, if you have a therapist, even a psychiatrist, who does understand, you need to encourage your parts to be honest with that person. Then you can get appropriate help.”

Tags : Bipolar Bipolar Disorder Bipolar Ptsd Ddnos Diagnosis Disclosure Dissociation Dissociative Disorder Dissociative Disorders Dissociative Identity Disorder Doctors Hearing Voices Lack Of Knowledge Medical Model Medication Mental Illness Mood Swings Osdd Psychiatric Drugs Psychotherapist Ritual Abuse Satanic Ritual Abuse Schizophrenia Therapist Trust
Author : Alison Miller
Source : Becoming Yourself: Overcoming Mind Control and Ritual Abuse

80. “I believe that for every illness or ailment known to man, that God has a plant out here that will heal it. We just need to keep discovering the properties for natural healing.”

Tags : Alternative Medicine Aromatherapy Ayurveda Chemical Free Essential Oils Healing Illness Lavender Mindfulness Practice Natural Healing Natural Remedies Sage Sickness And Diseases St Martin S Griffin Stress Therapy
Source : Essential Oils for Healing: Over 400 All-Natural Recipes for Everyday Ailments

81. “Helping the identities to be aware of one another as legitimate parts of the self and to negotiate and resolve their conflicts is at the very core of the therapeutic process. It is countertherapeutic for the therapist to treat any alternate identity as if it were more “real” or more important than any other.The therapist should not “play favorites” among the alternate identities or exclude apparently unlikable or disruptive ones from the therapy (although such steps may be necessary for a limited period of time at some stages in the treatment of some patients to provide for the safety and stability of the patient or the safety of others). The therapist should foster the idea that all alternate identities represent adaptive attempts to cope or to master problems that the patient has faced. Thus, it is countertherapeutic to tell patients to ignore or “get rid” of identities (although it is acceptable to provide strategies for the patient to resist the influence of destructive identities, or to help control the emergence of certain identities at inappropriate circumstances or times).It is countertherapeutic to suggest that the patient create additional alternate identities, to name identities when they have no names (although the patient may choose names if he or she wishes), or to suggest that identities function in a more elaborated and autonomous way than they already are functioning.A desirable treatment outcome is a workable form of integration or harmony among alternate identities."Guidelines for Treating Dissociative Identity Disorder in Adults, Third Revision, Journal of Trauma & Dissociation, 12:2, 115-187 (2011)DOI 10.1080/15299732.2011.537247”

Tags : Alter Personality Co Operation Communication Dissociation Dissociative Disorder Dissociative Identity Disorder Mpd Multiple Personalities Multiple Personality Disorder Mutual Respect Psychiatry Psychology Split Personalities Stigma Therapy Trauma Therapy

82. “The way in which the therapist perceives the client coming for counseling is one of the most powerful elements of the therapeutic process. It is very easy, and very common, for therapists working with ritual abuse survivors to see their clients in a one-down position, as in the doctor-patient medical model where, too often, distancing protects the doctor and dehumanizes the patient. By that I mean the client is seen as the "sick" one, and the therapist is the powerful one who will help the poor sick client.Hopefully, the therapist is functioning at a higher level of mental health than is the client, but it is a mistake to take that to mean that the therapist should assume a role of power over the client. Actually, clients are often coping well given what they are coping with. One of the easiest errors made is in the use of power in the therapeutic relationship, and what therapists frequently fail to see is how their own use of power, though benign in spirit, actually replicated the systematic, hierarchical misuse of power within the cult.”

Tags : Abuse Survivors Authoritarian Authority And Attitude Counseling Counselling Cult Abuse Dehumanize Dissociative Identity Disorder Medical Model Misuse Of Authority Misuse Of Power Powerlessness Psychotherapy Ritual Abuse Satanic Ritual Abuse Sra Therapy

83. “Of course, a culture as manically and massively materialistic as ours creates materialistic behavior in its people, especially in those people who've been subjected to nothing but the destruction of imagination that this culture calls education, the destruction of autonomy it calls work, and the destruction of activity it calls entertainment.”

Tags : Humor Therapy Venting
Author : James Hillman
Source : We've Had a Hundred Years of Psychotherapy & the World's Getting Worse

84. “If your love for another person doesn’t include loving yourself then your love is incomplete.”

Tags : Battles Delusion Dignity Divorce Empty Family Fantasy Friends Glass Is Half Empty Incomplete Love For One Another Mental Health Reality Relationship Problems Self Absorbed Self Help Self Love Self Work Self Worth Selfish Seperation Staying Positive Strife

85. “We therapists often make inaccurate assumptions about people living with DID and DDNOS. They often appear to be “just like us,” so we often assume their experience of life reflects our own. But this is profoundly untrue. It results in a communication gap, and, as a consequence, treatment errors. Because the dominant culture is one of persons with a single sense of self, most with multiple “selves” have learned to hide their multiplicity and imitate those who are singletons (that is, have a single, non-fragmented personality). Therapists who do not understand this sometimes describe their clients' alters without acknowledging their dissociation, saying only that they have different “moods.” In overlooking dissociation, this description fails to recognize the essential truth of such disorders, and of the alters. It was difficult for me to comprehend what life was like for my first few dissociative clients.”

Tags : Assumptions Cultural Differences Ddnos Dissociative Identity Disorder Misunderstandings Multiple Personality Disorder Multiplicity Psychotherapy Therapy
Author : Alison Miller
Source : Healing the Unimaginable: Treating Ritual Abuse and Mind Control

86. “Psychoanalysis has suffered the accusation of being “unscientific” from its very beginnings (Schwartz, 1999). In recent years, the Berkeley literary critic Frederick Crews has renewed the assault on the talking cure in verbose, unreadable articles in the New York Review of Books (Crews, 1990), inevitably concluding, because nothing else really persuades, that psychoanalysis fails because it is unscientific. The chorus was joined by philosopher of science, Adolf Grunbaum (1985), who played both ends against the middle: to the philosophers he professed specialist knowledge of psychoanalysis; to the psychoanalysts he professed specialist knowledge of science, particularly physics. Neither was true (Schwartz, 1995a,b, 1996a,b, 2000). The problem that mental health clinicians always face is that we deal with human subjectivity in a culture that is deeply invested in denying the importance of human subjectivity. Freud’s great invention of the analytic hour allows us to explore, with our clients, their inner worlds. Can such a subjective instrument be trusted? Not by very many. It is so dangerously close to women’s intuition. Socalled objectivity is the name of the game in our culture. Nevertheless, 100 years of clinical practice have shown psychoanalysis and psychotherapy not only to be effective, but to yield real understandings of the dynamics of human relationships, particularly the reality of transference–countertransference re-enactments now reformulated by our neuroscientists as right brain to right brain communication (Schore, 1999).”

Tags : Critic Disinformation Grandiosity Literary Critics Mental Health Professionals Neuroscience Psychoanalysis Psychoanalysts Psychotherapists Psychotherapy Subjective Truth Subjectivity Therapy Trauma Unscientific
Source : Ritual Abuse and Mind Control: The Manipulation of Attachment Needs

87. “The purported insight achieved by the patient is not the product of a process of veridical self-discovery, but rather reflects the patient’s conversion to the therapist’s interpretation.”

Tags : Freud Insight Patient Psychoanalysis Self Discovery Sigmund Freud Therapy

88. “There is no doubt that I am selective in my listening, hence "directive" if people wish to accuse me of this. I am centered in the group member who is speaking, and am unquestionably much less interested in the details of his quarrel with his wife, or of his difficulties on the job, or his disagreement with what has just been said, than in the meaning these experience have for him now and the feeling they arouse in him. It is to these meanings and feelings that I try to respond.”

Tags : Change Group Learning Listening Therapy

89. “I am willing for the participant to commit or not commit himself to the group. If a person wishes to remain psychologically on the sidelines, he has my implicit permission to do so. The group itself may or may not be willing for him to remain in this stance but personally I am willing. One skeptical college administrator said that the main things he had learned was that he could withdraw from personal participation, be comfortable about it, and realize that he would not be coerced. To me, this seemed a valuable learning and one that would make it much more possible for him actually to participate at the next opportunity. Recent reports on his behavior, a full year later, suggest that he gained and changed from his seeming nonparticipation.”

Tags : Change Group Group Work Participation Psychotherapy Therapy
Source : On Encounter Groups

90. “We do not have to be mental health professionals to identify the traits of the possible sociopaths among us.”

Tags : Abuse Abusive Partner Abusive Relationships Antisocial Personality Disorder Difficult People Difficult Relationships Personality Disorders Philosophy Psychology Psychopath Psychopaths Psychopathy Quotes On Relationships Relationship Relationships Sociopath Sociopaths Sociopathy Therapy Toxic People Truth
Author : P.A. Speers
Source : Type 1 Sociopath - When Difficult People Are More Than Just Difficult People

91. “Dissociative Disorders have a high rate of responsiveness to therapy and that with proper treatment, their prognosis is quite good.”

Tags : Abuse Survivors Ddnos Depersonalization Depersonalization Disorder Derealization Dissociation Dissociative Amnesia Dissociative Disorder Dissociative Disorders Dissociative Fugue Dissociative Identity Disorder Mental Disorder Mental Illness Mpd Prognosis Psychotherapy Therapy Traumatized
Source : Interviewer's Guide to the Structured Clinical Interview for Dsm-IV (R) Dissociative Disorders (Scid-D)

92. “If you feel that you are going without go within”

Tags : Going With The Flow Going Within Going Without Happiness Advice Healing Inner Fulfilment Inner Peace Inner Space Materialism Versus Spiritualism Meditation Rasheed Ogunlaru Rasheed Ogunlaru Quotes Self Help Self Improvement Stress Therapy

93. “All the repressed emotions and subconscious desires in time lead to some kind of psychological or physiological breakdown, if kept unchecked.”

Tags : Emotional Health Health Hysteria Inspirational Life Lessons Life Lessons Quotes Medicine Medicine For The Soul Neuropsychology Neuroscience Physiology Psychiatry Psychology Psychology Quotes Repressed Emotions Repressed Feelings Repression Therapy

94. “When sleep came, I would dream bad dreams. Not the baby and the big man with a cigarette-lighter dream. Another dream. The castle dream. A little girl of about six who looks -like me, but isn’t me, is happy as she steps out of the car with her daddy. They enter the castle and go down the steps to the dungeon where people move like shadows in the glow of burning candles. There are carpets and funny pictures on the walls. Some of the people wear hoods and robes. Sometimes they chant in droning voices that make the little girl afraid. There are other children, some of them without any clothes on. There is an altar like the altar in nearby St Mildred’s Church. The children take turns lying on that altar so the people, mostly men, but a few women, can kiss and lick their private parts. The daddy holds the hand of the little girl tightly. She looks up at him and he smiles. The little girl likes going out with her daddy. I did want to tell Dr Purvis these dreams but I didn’t want her to think I was crazy, and so kept them to myself. The psychiatrist was wiser than I appreciated at the time; sixteen-year-olds imagine they are cleverer than they really are. Dr Purvis knew I had suffered psychological damage as a child, that’s why she kept making a fresh appointment week after week. But I was unable to give her the tools and clues to find out exactly what had happened.”

Tags : Castle Cooking Crazy Derealization Dissociation Dissociative Dissociative Identity Disorder Horror Mental Health Multiple Personality Disorder Out Of Body Paedophile Ring Pedophiles Psychological Psychotherapist Ritual Abuse Sexual Abuse Survivor Terror Therapist Therapy Torture Victim
Source : Today I'm Alice: Nine Personalities, One Tortured Mind

95. “I like watching from inside, as if locked away and stealing the distinct pleasure of a high school marching band drum section’spure perfection. How stoically they playin the exhaust of a fire engine’s wake.”

Tags : Fire Engine High School Marching Band Parade Poem Small Town Therapy Watching

96. “Rachel shook her head, even though she was lying. Of course it bothered her to be spilling her guts out to someone and watching them write it all down in front of her. It felt exposing and intrusive to her privacy. Like Dr. Kean was writing it down so she could show someone else, or remember the good parts so she could go back and reread them later.”

Tags : Brave Rape Rape Survivor Therapy
Author : Anais Torres
Source : Being Brave Again

97. “Those of us who work in the field of trauma and abuse, whether psychologists, psychoanalysts, social workers, doctors, counselors, or psychotherapists, have been provided with beautiful tools for understanding the impact of trauma. We become adept at understanding the dynamic of why the messenger is always shot and broadcast the Bionic insight of why the visionary is not bearable to the group.However, when it comes to military mind control, abuse within religious belief groups or cults, and deliberately created dissociative identity disorder, we enter the least resourced field of all.”

Tags : Abuse Cults Dissociation Dissociative Identity Disorder Messenger Military Mind Control Mkultra Muliple Personality Disorder Multiplicity Psychological Abuse Psychology Psychotherapist Religious Abuse Ritual Abuse Satanic Ritual Abuse Social Worker Therapy Trauma
Source : Healing the Unimaginable: Treating Ritual Abuse and Mind Control

98. “I am well aware that certain exercises, tasks setup by the facilitator, can practically force the group to more of a here-and-now communication or more of a feeling level. There are leaders who do these very skillfully, and with good effect at the time. However, I am enough of a scientist-clinician to make many casual follow-up inquiries, and I know that frequently the lasting result of such procedures is not nearly as satisfying as the immediate effect. At it's best it may lead to discipleship (which I happen not to like): "What a marvelous leader he is to have made me open up when I had no intention of doing it!" It can also lead to a rejection of the whole experience. "Why did I do those silly things he asked me to?" At worst, it can make the person feel that his private self has been in some way violated, and he will be careful never to expose himself to a group again. From my experience I know that if I attempt to push a group to a deeper level it is not, in the long run, going to work.”

Tags : Change Group Work Psychotherapy Therapy
Source : On Encounter Groups

99. “When faced with choosing between attributing their pain to “being crazy” and having had abusive parents, clients will choose “crazy” most of the time. Dora, a 38-year-old, was profoundly abused by multiple family perpetrators and has grappled with cutting and eating disordered behaviors for most of her life. She poignantly echoed this dilemma in her therapy: I hate it when we talk about my family as “dysfunctional” or “abusive.” Think about what you are asking me to accept—that my parents didn't love me, care about me, or protect me. If I have to choose between "being abused" or "being sick and crazy," it's less painful to see myself as nuts than to imagine my parents as evil.”

Tags : Abuse Survivors Abusers Abusive Parents Child Abuse Survivors Crazy Cutting Denial Dysfunctional Families Eating Disorder Causes Nuts Survivors Therapy
Author : Lisa Ferentz
Source : Treating Self-Destructive Behaviors in Trauma Survivors: A Clinician's Guide

100. “When I was 15 years old, I came in contact with my first ashram, my first spiritual commune, in the form of Ljusbacken ("The Hill of Light") in Delsbo in beautiful Halsingland in the north of Sweden. Ljusbacken consisted of an international gathering of yogis, meditators, therapists, healers and seekers of truth. It was on Ljusbacken that I for the first time came in contact with my path in life: meditation.It was also on Ljusbacken that I meet people for the first time in my 15 year old life, where I on a deep wordless level felt that I meet people, who were on the same path as me. It was the first time that I meet people, who could put words on and confirm my own inner thirst after something that I could only occasionally sense vaguely, like some sort of inner guiding presence, or like a beacon in the distant far out on the open and misty ocean. For the first time in my life, I meet brothers, sisters and friends on the inner path. It was also on Ljusbacken that I meet the mystery called love for the first time in my 15 year old life. With my 15 year old eyes, I watched with wide eyed fascination and fear filled excitement the incomprehensible mystery, which is called woman.My own thirst after truth, together with my inner guiding light, resulted in an early spiritual awakening when I was 15 years old. It led me back to the inner path, which I have already followed for many lives. It led me back to a life lived with vision, with dedication and meaning, and not only a life governed by the endless desires of the ego, a mere vegetating without substance between life and death. It led me to explore the inner journey again, to discover the inner being, the meditative quality within, and to come in intimate contact with the endless and boundless ocean of consciousness, like the drop surrenders to the sea. At the source, the drop and ocean are one.”

Tags : Ashram Consciousness Delsbo Devadas Growth Healing Intuition Joy Life Ljusbacken Love Meditation Mysticism One With Life Psychology Relationships Spirituality Sweden Therapy Truth Yogis

101. “In therapy, to meet the needs of traumatized survivors of war and torture, the patient is requested to repeatedly talk about the worst traumatic event in detail while re-experiencing all emotions associated with the event. Traumatic memory, they say, is cleared by narration of whole life; from early childhood up to the present date ... this book is my therapy. I am awash with living memories.”

Tags : Alf Nestor Alfred Nestor Author Alfred Nestor Childhood Therapy Hitler Hitler S Germany Nazi Party Second World War Chidhood Second World War In Germany Survival Story Therapy Trauma Therapy Uncle Hitler War Story Ww2 Wwii
Author : Alfred Nestor
Source : Uncle Hitler: A Child's Traumatic Journey Through Nazi Hell to the Safety of Britain

102. “Rikki looked over at me.“Why now?" she asked, looking back at Arly. “Why is this happening now?""Hard to say." Arly [therapist] replied. "DID usually gets diagnosed in adulthood. Something happens that triggers the alters to come out. When Cam's father died and he came in to help his brother run the family business he was in close contact with his mother again. Maybe it was seeing Kyle around the same age when some of the abuse happened. Cam was sick for a long time and finally got better. Maybe he wasn't strong enough until now to handle this. It's probably a combination of things. But it sure looks like some of the abuse Cam experienced involved his mother. And sexual abuse by the mother is considered to he one of the most traumatic forms of abuse. In some ways it's the ultimate betrayal.”

Tags : Abnormal Psychology Abusive Mother Betrayal Betrayal Quote Betraying Innocence Child Sexual Abuse Child Sexual Abuse Survivor Dissociation Dissociative Dissociative Disorder Dissociative Identity Disorder Healing Insights Incest Male Survivor Mental Disorder Mental Illness Mpd Multiple Personality Disorder Multiplicity Psychology Psychotherapy Sexual Abuse Sexual Abuse Of A Child Survivor Therapy
Author : Cameron West
Source : First Person Plural: My Life as a Multiple

103. “The "stiff, dead, retracted pelvis" is one of man's most frequent vegetative disturbances. It is responsible for lumbago as well as for hemorrhoidal disturbances. Elsewhere, we shall demonstrate an important connection between these disturbances and genital cancer in women, which is so common.Thus, the "deadning of the pelvis" has the same function as the deadening of the abdomen, i.e., to avoid feelings, particularly those of pleasure and anxiety.”

Tags : Emotion Feelings Orgasm Orgone Therapy
Author : Wilhelm Reich
Source : The Function of the Orgasm

104. “I immersed myself in my relationship with my husband, in little ways at first. Dutch would come home from his morning workout and I’d bring him coffee as he stepped out of the shower. He’d slip into a crisp white shirt and dark slacks and run a little goop through his hair, and I’d eye him in the mirror with desire and a sultry smile that he couldn’t miss. He’d head to work and I’d put a love note in his bag—just a line about how proud I was of him. How beautiful he was. How happy I was as his wife.He’d come home and cook dinner and instead of camping out in front of the TV while he fussed in the kitchen, I’d keep him company at the kitchen table and we’d talk about our days, about our future, about whatever came to mind. After dinner, he’d clear the table and I’d do the dishes, making sure to compliment him on the meal. On those weekends when he’d head outside to mow the lawn, I’d bring him an ice-cold beer. And, in those times when Dutch was in the mood and maybe I wasn’t, well, I got in the mood and we had fun.As the weeks passed and I kept discovering little ways to open myself up to him, the most amazing thing happened. I found myself falling madly, deeply, passionately, head-over-heels in love with my husband. I’d loved him as much as I thought I could love anybody before I’d married him, but in treating him like my own personal Superman, I discovered how much of a superhero he actually was. How giving he was. How generous. How kind, caring, and considerate. How passionate. How loving. How genuinely good. And whatever wounds had never fully healed from my childhood finally, at long last, formed scar tissue. It was like being able to take a full breath of air for the first time in my life. It was transformative. And it likely would save our marriage, because, at some point, all that withholding would’ve turned a loving man bitter. On some level I think I’d known that and yet I’d needed my sister to point it out to me and help me change.Sometimes it’s good to have people in your life that know you better than you know yourself.”

Tags : Advice Behavioral Psychology Dysfunctional Families Falling In Love Family Functional Love Lovers Psychology Relationship Relationship Advice Relationships Love Sage Therapy Wife And Husband
Source : Sense of Deception

105. “In the therapeutic process based on awareness, there exists no ”I" – it just exists a presence, a light, a love and a silence.”

Tags : Awareness Ego Love Meditation Presence Psychology Silence Spirituality Therapy
Source : Presence - Working from Within. The Psychology of Being

106. “Underlying the attack on psychotherapy, I believe, is a recognition of the potential power of any relationship of witnessing. The consulting room is a privileged space dedicated to memory. Within that space, survivors gain the freedom to know and tell their stories. Even the most private and confidential disclosure of past abuses increases the likelihood of eventual public disclosure. And public disclosure is something that perpetrators are determined to prevent. As in the case of more overtly political crimes, perpetrators will fight tenaciously to ensure that their abuses remain unseen, unacknowledged, and consigned to oblivion.The dialectic of trauma is playing itself out once again. It is worth remembering that this is not the first time in history that those who have listened closely to trauma survivors have been subject to challenge. Nor will it be the last. In the past few years, many clinicians have had to learn to deal with the same tactics of harassment and intimidation that grassroots advocates for women, children and other oppressed groups have long endured. We, the bystanders, have had to look within ourselves to find some small portion of the courage that victims of violence must muster every day.Some attacks have been downright silly; many have been quite ugly. Though frightening, these attacks are an implicit tribute to the power of the healing relationship. They remind us that creating a protected space where survivors can speak their truth is an act of liberation. They remind us that bearing witness, even within the confines of that sanctuary, is an act of solidarity. They remind us also that moral neutrality in the conflict between victim and perpetrator is not an option. Like all other bystanders, therapists are sometimes forced to take sides. Those who stand with the victim will inevitably have to face the perpetrator's unmasked fury. For many of us, there can be no greater honor. p.246 - 247Judith Lewis Herman, M.D. February, 1997”

Tags : Abuse Abuse Of Power Abused Women Attacks Bravery Courage False Memory Fear Healing Honor Oppressed Power Psychotherapy Recovery Survivor Survivors Survivorship Therapy Trauma Survivors Victim Victim Blaming Victimization Victims
Source : Trauma and Recovery: The Aftermath of Violence - From Domestic Abuse to Political Terror

107. “Spontaneity in the therapeutic work arises when the therapist can allow creative and authentic impulses to arise from moment to moment from the inner being, from the meditative quality within, from the inner emptiness, from the capacity to surrender to life. Then the therapist becomes less of a technician and more of an artist in the therapeutic work. It is then when the therapist and client meets in awareness without any barrier between.”

Tags : Awarness Life Meditation Presence Psychology Therapy
Source : Presence - Working from Within. The Psychology of Being

108. “What she meant was that I let my emotions control me. I was letting myself be helpless to them, and when we think we are our emotions, instead of our emotions being something we experience, or can let go of, or survive… they’re in control.”

Tags : Emotions And Control Life Lessons Therapy Truth
Author : Jude Sierra
Source : What It Takes

109. “I think more people would stay active in church, if they didn't get so offended by the actions of members. Sometimes, you have to view places of worship as free mental health clinics, in order to deal with the piety or hypocrisy. Parishioners are a wounded souls in various stages of healing, who are being treated by angels, with credentials from the University of Hard Knocks. Some take their therapy seriously and try to practice what they learned. Yet, others down the sacrament like a healing dose of Prozac, with no other effort required. When you keep this in mind, you won't feel so annoyed by the personalities you encounter.”

Tags : Asylum Bad Advice Church Churches Counselors Free Therapy Healers Healing Insane Insanity Mental Disorders Mental Health Mental Institution Peace Psychiatry Psychology Religion Salvation Souls Theology Therapists Uneducated Shrinks Unorganized Worship Worship Teams Wounded Souls

110. “Why Cults Terrorize and Kill Children – LLOYD DEMAUSEThe Journal of Psychohistory 21 (4) 1994"Extending these local figures to a national estimate would easily mean tens of thousands of cult victims per year reporting, plus undoubtedly more who do not report.(2) This needn’t mean, of course, that actual Cult abuse is increasing, only that-as with the increase in all child abuse reports-we have become more open to hearing them. But it seemed unlikely that the surge of cult memories could all be made up by patients or implanted by therapists. Therapists are a timid group at best, and the notion that they suddenly begin implanting false memories in tens of thousands of their clients for no apparent reason strained credulity. Certainly no one has presented a shred of evidence for massive “false memory” implantations.”

Tags : Abuse Cult Cult Abuse False Memories Psychotherapy Ritual Abuse Satanic Ritual Abuse Therapists Therapy Trauma Trauma Survivors Trauma Therapist
Author : Lloyd DeMause

111. “It is necessary to make this point in answer to the `iatrogenic' theory that the unveiling of repressed memories in MPD sufferers, paranoids and schizophrenics can be created in analysis; a fabrication of the doctor—patient relationship. According to Dr Ross, this theory, a sort of psychiatric ping-pong 'has never been stated in print in a complete and clearly argued way'. My case endorses Dr Ross's assertions. My memories were coming back to me in fragments and flashbacks long before I began therapy. Indications of that abuse, ritual or otherwise, can be found in my medical records and in notebooks and poems dating back before Adele Armstrong and Jo Lewin entered my life. There have been a number of cases in recent years where the police have charged groups of people with subjecting children to so-called satanic or ritual abuse in paedophile rings. Few cases result in a conviction. But that is not proof that the abuse didn't take place, and the police must have been very certain of the evidence to have brought the cases to court in the first place. The abuse happens. I know it happens. Girls in psychiatric units don't always talk to the shrinks, but they need to talk and they talk to each other. As a child I had been taken to see Dr Bradshaw on countless occasions; it was in his surgery that Billy had first discovered Lego. As I was growing up, I also saw Dr Robinson, the marathon runner. Now that I was living back at home, he was again my GP. When Mother bravely told him I was undergoing treatment for MPD/DID as a result of childhood sexual abuse, he buried his head in hands and wept.(Alice refers to her constant infections as a child, which were never recognised as caused by sexual abuse)”

Tags : Abuse Amnesia Colin Ross Dissociation Dissociative Dissociative Identity Disorder Dr Ross False Memories Medical Memory Mental Health Mental Illness Mpd Multiple Personality Disorder Psychological Problems Psychology Recovered Memory Repressed Memories Split Personality Survivor Therapists Therapy Trauma Victim
Source : Today I'm Alice: Nine Personalities, One Tortured Mind

112. “To give up power to change for the better is inherently distasteful to everyone, and to force people to affirm that they are addicts or alcoholics so they can speak in a meeting is shameful and demoralizing.”

Tags : Addiction Cure Addiction Treatment Alcohol Abuse Alcoholic Alcoholism Change Chris Prentiss Healing Healing Abuse Holistic Treatment Life Improvement Non 12 Step Passages Malibu Passages Rehab Passages Treatment Passages Ventura Pax Prentiss Philosophy Recovering Addict Recovery Rehab Self Help Therapy
Source : The Alcoholism and Addiction Cure

113. “Great music stops the inner turmoil of thought and allows the mind to seek its natural state of joy. Music frees our minds and allows us to soar to heights where we can experience the celestial. Music opens our minds to allow the perception of new thoughts of a higher nature, which gives us a spiritual lift, which produces yet more joy.”

Tags : Guidance I Ching Life Music Passages Malibu Quotes Therapy Wisdom Wu Wei
Author : Wu Wei
Source : I Ching Wisdom: More Guidance from the Book of Answers, Volume Two

114. “How do you think your body and mind would respond if you were surrounded by psychologists, psychiatrists, or drug and alcohol counselors who subscribed to the belief that "once an alcoholic or addict, always an alcoholic or addict" and who believed that your current stay in rehab would be one of many?”

Tags : Addiction Chris Prentiss Holistic Holistic Health Non 12 Step Passages Malibu Passages Rehab Passages Treatment Center Passages Ventura Pax Prentiss Therapy Treatment Wellbeing Wellness Zen And The Art Of Happiness
Source : Zen and the Art of Happiness

115. “How do we find words for describing levels of betrayal and emotional, physical, sexual and spiritual torture that fragment and destroy a child or cast and case traumatic shadows over the whole of adult life? We might, as a society, slowly find it possible to accept that one in four citizens are likely to have experience some form of emotional, psychical, sexual or spiritual abuse (McQueen, Itzin, Kennedy, Sinason, & Maxted, 2008), in itself a figure unimaginable and hidden twenty years ago. However, accepting the way a hurt and hurting parent or stranger re-enacts their disturbance with a vulnerable child or children remains far easier to digest than to consider the intellectually planned, scientific, methodical, procedures of organized child-abusing perpetrators-in other words, torture.”

Tags : Abuse Betrayal Child Child Abuse Child Abusers Cults Dissociation Dissociative Identity Disorder Emotional Abuse Fragment Mind Muliple Personality Disorder Multiplicity Physical Abuse Psychological Abuse Psychology Psychotherapist Rape Ritual Abuse Sexual Abuse Spiritual Abuse Splinter Therapy Torture Trauma Traumatic Unimaginable

116. “But now, he was conscious of his own impatience with what he had begun to see as the sinister pedantry of therapy, its suggestion that life was somehow reparable, that there existed a societal norm and that the patient was being guided toward conforming to it.”

Tags : A Little Life Conforming Hanya Yanagihara Societal Norm Therapy
Source : A Little Life

117. “Carry the confidence.”

Tags : Anxiety Confidence Therapy
Source : The Secret Life of CeeCee Wilkes

118. “Don't cry about it. Write about it.”

Tags : Coping Cry Emotions Life Therapy Write
Author : Crystal Woods
Source : Write like no one is reading

119. “When something seems unbalanced and out of rhythm, just a song can tune things up in a moment. The power of music is therapy.”

Tags : Balance Good Mood Happy Instruments Lyrics Melody Music Power Sing Song Soothe Soul Spirit Therapy Tune

120. “Although false memory psychologists point to therapy sessions as the setting in which people commonly determine that they forgot, and then remembered, abuse. Elliott (1997) found that the majority of people who had forgotten a traumatic event and then remembered it identified the trigger as some form of media presentation, such as a film or a television show. Psychotherapy was the least common trigger for remembering trauma."KNOWING AND NOT KNOWING ABOUT TRAUMA: IMPLICATIONS FOR THERAPY”

Tags : Psychotherapy Recovered Memories Repressed Memories Repressed Memory Suggestibility Therapy Trauma Memories Trauma Memory

121. “Mind control is built on lies and manipulation of attachment needs.Valerie Sinason, (Forward)”

Tags : Abused Women Betrayal Child Child Abuse Child Abusers Cults Dissociation Lies Manipulation Muliple Personality Disorder Multiplicity Psychological Abuse Rape Ritual Abuse Sexual Abuse Spiritual Abuse Therapy Torture Trauma
Author : Alison Miller
Source : Healing the Unimaginable: Treating Ritual Abuse and Mind Control

122. “...Things happenedwhen you were little. Things youdon't remember now, and don't wantto. But they need to escape,need to worm their way outof that dark place in your brainwhere you keep them stashed.”

Tags : Therapy Trauma
Author : Ellen Hopkins
Source : Fallout

123. “The observer self, a part of who we really are, is that part of us that is watching both our false self and our True Self. We might say that it even watches us when we watch. It is our Consciousness, it is the core experience of our Child Within. It thus cannot be watched—at least by anything or any being that we know of on this earth. It transcends our five senses, our co-dependent self and all other lower, though necessary parts, of us. Adult children may confuse their observer self with a kind of defense they may have used to avoid their Real Self and all of its feelings. One might call this defense “false observer self” since its awareness is clouded. It is unfocused as it “spaces” or “numbs out.” It denies and distorts our Child Within, and is often judgmental.”

Tags : Child Development Disassociation Dissociation Healing Ptsd Self Help Therapy Trauma
Source : Healing the Child Within: Discovery and Recovery for Adult Children of Dysfunctional Families

124. “So are you an inmate or a rubbernecker?" she asks."Rubbernecker," I answer without hesitation. "You?""I'm a screw. Or on staff, anyway. Used to be an inmate. Repeat offender. Crimes against my body. Puking sickness followed by heroin, which led to more puking sickness." I'd be surprised at her forthrightness, but that's addicts for you. The twelve steps crack 'em open and then they can't shut up.”

Tags : 12 Step Programs Addiction Addicts Rehab Therapy
Author : Lauren Beukes
Source : Zoo City

125. “Bit by bit, Dr. Driscoll helped me to peel away the layers of protection I had built up over the years. The process was not that unlike the peeling of an onion, which also makes us cry. It has been a painful journey, and I don't now when it will end, when I can say, “OK, it's over.” Maybe never. Maybe sooner than I know. I recently told Dr. Driscoll that I feel the beginnings of feeling OK, that this is the right path.”

Tags : Clergy Abuse Healing Journey Onion Painful Priest Priest Abuse Protection Psychotherapy Rape Recovery Sexdual Abuse Sexual Assault Survivor Therapy Victim
Source : In the Shadow of the Cross

126. “Secondary structural dissociation involves one ANP and more than one EP. Examples of secondary structural dissociation are complex PTSD, complex forms of acute stress disorder, complex dissociative amnesia, complex somatoform disorders, some forms of trauma-relayed personality disorders, such as borderline personality disorder, and dissociative disorder not otherwise specified (DDNOS).. Secondary structural dissociation is characterized by divideness of two or more defensive subsystems. For example, there may be different EPs that are devoted to flight, fight or freeze, total submission, and so on. (Van der Hart et al., 2004). Gail, a patient of mine, does not have a personality disorder, but describes herself as a "changed person." She survived a horrific car accident that killed several others, and in which she was the driver. Someone not knowing her history might see her as a relatively normal, somewhat anxious and stiff person (ANP). It would not occur to this observer that only a year before, Gail had been a different person: fun-loving, spontaneous, flexible, and untroubled by frightening nightmares and constant anxiety. Fortunately, Gail has been willing to pay attention to her EPs; she has been able to put the process of integration in motion; and she has been able to heal. p134”

Tags : Apparently Normal Part Dissociation Emotional Part Personality Psychology Psychotherapy Ptsd Structural Dissociation Therapy Trauma
Source : The Dissociative Mind

127. “ the lower self, love is neediness, “chemistry” or infatuation, possession, strong admiration, or even worship—in short, traditional romantic love. Many people who grew up in troubled homes and who experienced a stifling of their Child Within become stuck at these lower levels or ways of experiencing love.”

Tags : Healing Ptsd Self Help Therapy
Source : Healing the Child Within: Discovery and Recovery for Adult Children of Dysfunctional Families

128. “Those who are aware of their condition and experience themselves as "multiple" might refer to themselves as "we" rather than "I." I shall use the term "multiple" at times, in respect for their internal experience. It is important to point out, however, that I recognize that someone who is multiple is actually a single fragmented person rather than many people. On the outside, a multiple is probably not visibly different from anyone else. But that image is only an imitation: people who are multiple cannot think like the rest of us, and we cannot think like them. (In fact, since it is difficult for the multiple to understand how singletons think, some of them might think that is is you who are strange).Just as a singleton cannot become a multiple at will, a multiple cannot become a singleton until and unless the barriers between the parts of the self are removed. Those barriers were put up to enable the child to tolerate, and so survive, unavoidable abuse. p20[Multiple: a person with dissociative identity disorder (DID) or DDNOS.Singleton: a person without DID or DDNOS, i.e with a single, unified personality]”

Tags : Alter Alter Personality Apparently Normal Part Apparently Normal Personality Ddnos Did Dissociation Dissociative Identity Disorder Mpd Multiple Multiple Personalities Multiple Personality Disorder Multiplicity Personality Psychology Psychotherapy Split Personality Structural Dissociation Therapy
Author : Alison Miller
Source : Healing the Unimaginable: Treating Ritual Abuse and Mind Control

129. “The "apparently normal personality" - the alter you view as "the client"You should not assume that the adult who function in the world, or who presents to you, week after week, is the "real" person, and the other personalities are less real. The client who comes to therapy is not "the" person; there are other personalities to meet and work with.When DID was still officially called MPD, the "person" who lived life on the outside was known as the "host" personality, and the other parts were known as alters. These terms, unfortunately, implied that all the parts other than the host were guests, and therefore of less importance than the host. They were somehow secondary. The currently favored theory of structural dissociation (Nijenhuis & Den Boer, 2009; van der Hart, Nijenhuis, & Steele, 2006), which more accurately describes the way personality systems operate, instead distinguishes between two kinds of states: the apparently normal personality, or ANP, and the emotional personality, or EP, both of which could include a number of parts. p21”

Tags : Alter Alter Personality Apparently Normal Part Apparently Normal Personality Did Dissociation Dissociative Identity Disorder Mpd Multiple Personalities Multiple Personality Disorder Personality Psychology Psychotherapy Split Personality Structural Dissociation Therapy
Author : Alison Miller
Source : Healing the Unimaginable: Treating Ritual Abuse and Mind Control

130. “I resolved to come right to the point. "Hello," I said as coldly as possible, "we've got to talk.""Yes, Bob," he said quietly, "what's on your mind?" I shut my eyes for a moment, letting the raging frustration well up inside, then stared angrily at the psychiatrist."Look, I've been religious about this recovery business. I go to AA meetings daily and to your sessions twice a week. I know it's good that I've stopped drinking. But every other aspect of my life feels the same as it did before. No, it's worse. I hate my life. I hate myself."Suddenly I felt a slight warmth in my face, blinked my eyes a bit, and then stared at him."Bob, I'm afraid our time's up," Smith said in a matter-of-fact style."Time's up?" I exclaimed. "I just got here.""No." He shook his head, glancing at his clock. "It's been fifty minutes. You don't remember anything?""I remember everything. I was just telling you that these sessions don't seem to be working for me."Smith paused to choose his words very carefully. "Do you know a very angry boy named 'Tommy'?""No," I said in bewilderment, "except for my cousin Tommy whom I haven't seen in twenty years...""No." He stopped me short. "This Tommy's not your cousin. I spent this last fifty minutes talking with another Tommy. He's full of anger. And he's inside of you.""You're kidding?""No, I'm not. Look. I want to take a little time to think over what happened today. And don't worry about this. I'll set up an emergency session with you tomorrow. We'll deal with it then."RobertThis is Robert speaking. Today I'm the only personality who is strongly visible inside and outside. My own term for such an MPD role is dominant personality. Fifteen years ago, I rarely appeared on the outside, though I had considerable influence on the inside; back then, I was what one might call a "recessive personality." My passage from "recessive" to "dominant" is a key part of our story; be patient, you'll learn lots more about me later on. Indeed, since you will meet all eleven personalities who once roamed about, it gets a bit complex in the first half of this book; but don't worry, you don't have to remember them all, and it gets sorted out in the last half of the book. You may be wondering -- if not "Robert," who, then, was the dominant MPD personality back in the 1980s and earlier? His name was "Bob," and his dominance amounted to a long reign, from the early 1960s to the early 1990s. Since "Robert B. Oxnam" was born in 1942, you can see that "Bob" was in command from early to middle adulthood.Although he was the dominant MPD personality for thirty years, Bob did not have a clue that he was afflicted by multiple personality disorder until 1990, the very last year of his dominance. That was the fateful moment when Bob first heard that he had an "angry boy named Tommy" inside of him. How, you might ask, can someone have MPD for half a lifetime without knowing it? And even if he didn't know it, didn't others around him spot it?To outsiders, this is one of the most perplexing aspects of MPD. Multiple personality is an extreme disorder, and yet it can go undetected for decades, by the patient, by family and close friends, even by trained therapists. Part of the explanation is the very nature of the disorder itself: MPD thrives on secrecy because the dissociative individual is repressing a terrible inner secret. The MPD individual becomes so skilled in hiding from himself that he becomes a specialist, often unknowingly, in hiding from others. Part of the explanation is rooted in outside observers: MPD often manifests itself in other behaviors, frequently addiction and emotional outbursts, which are wrongly seen as the "real problem."The fact of the matter is that Bob did not see himself as the dominant personality inside Robert B. Oxnam. Instead, he saw himself as a whole person. In his mind, Bob was merely a nickname for Bob Oxnam, Robert Oxnam, Dr. Robert B. Oxnam, PhD.”

Tags : Alcoholic Alcoholism Alters Dissociative Identity Disorder Mental Health Mental Illness Mpd Multiple Personalities Multiple Personality Psychiatrist Psychology Split Personality Survivor Therapy
Source : A Fractured Mind: My Life with Multiple Personality Disorder

131. “Once I had found the courage to tell Rebecca about the children in my head, it wasn't so hard in the coming months to tell Roberta. On the train from Huddersfield one day in May I made a roll call of the usual suspects: Baby Alice; Alice 2, who was two years old and liked to suck sticky lollipops; Billy; Samuel; Shirley; Kato; and the enigmatic Eliza. There was boy I would grow particularly fond of named limbo, who was ten, but like Eliza he was still forming. There were others without names or specific behaviour traits. I didn't want to confuse the issue with this crowd of 'others' and just counted off the major players with their names, ages and personalities, which Roberta scribbled down on a pad. Then she looked slightly embarrassed. 'You know, I've met Billy on a few occasions, and Samuel once too,' she said. 'You're joking.' I felt betrayed. 'Why didn't you tell me?' 'I wanted it to come from you, Alice, when you were ready.' For some reason I pulled up my sleeves and showed he my arms. 'That's Kato,' I said, 'or Shirley.' She looked a bit pale as she studied the scars. I had feeling she didn't know what to say. The problem with counsellors is that they are trained to listen, not to give advice or diagnosis. We sat there with my arms extended over the void between us like evidence in court, then I pushed down my sleeves again. 'I'm so sorry, Alice,' she said finally and I shrugged. 'It's not your fault, is it?' Now she shrugged, and we were quiet once more.”

Tags : Dissociation Dissociative Dissociative Identity Disorder Mental Health Mental Illness Multiple Personality Disorder Psych Split Personality Therapy
Source : Today I'm Alice: Nine Personalities, One Tortured Mind

132. “The role of the therapist is to reflect the being/accepting self that was never allowed to be in the borderline.”

Tags : Borderline Personality Disorder Psychology Therapist Therapy

133. “I recently consulted to a therapist who felt he had accomplished something by getting his dissociative client to remain in her ANP throughout her sessions with him. His view reflects the fundamental mistake that untrained therapists tend to make with DID and DDNOS. Although his client was properly diagnosed, he assumed that the ANP should be encouraged to take charge of the other parts at all times. He also expected her to speak for them—in other words, to do their therapy. This denied the other parts the opportunity to reveal their secrets, heal their pain, or correct their childhood-based beliefs about the world.If you were doing family therapy, would it be a good idea to only meet with the father, especially if he had not talked with his children or his spouse in years? Would the other family members feel as if their experiences and feelings mattered?Would they be able to improve their relationships? You must work with the parts who are inside of the system. Directly.”

Tags : Abuse Communication Ddnos Diagnosis Dissociative Identity Disorder Errors Family Feelings Healing Mistake Mpd Multiple Personality Disorder Psychiatry Psychology Psychotherapy Ritual Abuse Secrets Teamwork Therapist Therapy Trauma
Author : Alison Miller
Source : Healing the Unimaginable: Treating Ritual Abuse and Mind Control

134. “What daily life is like for “a multiple” Imagine that you have periods of “lost time.” You may find writings or drawings which you must have done, but do not remember producing. Perhaps you find child-sized clothing or toys in your home but have no children. You might also hear voices or babies crying in your head. Imagine that you can never predict when you will be able to have certain knowledge or social skills, and your emotions and your energy level seem to change at the drop of a hat, and for no apparent reason. You cannot understand why you feel what you feel, and, if you are in therapy, you cannot explore those feelings when asked. Your life feels disjointed and often confusing. It is a frightening experience. It feels out of control, and you probably think you are going crazy. That is what it is like to be multiple, and all of it is experienced by the ANPs. A multiple may also experience very concrete problems, even life-threatening ones.”

Tags : Abuse Amnesia Anp Communication Confusion Crazy Diagnosis Dissociation Fear Feelings Hearing Voices Mental Disorder Mental Problems Multiple Personalities Multiple Personality Disorder Multiplicity Psychiatry Psychotherapy Ritual Abuse Secrets Shame Stigma Teamwork Therapist Therapy Trauma
Author : Alison Miller
Source : Healing the Unimaginable: Treating Ritual Abuse and Mind Control

135. “Someone's therapist knows all about you.”

Tags : Gossip Opinion Quote Therapist Therapy Thoughts You

136. “I just realized he was phrasing all of his questions as statements. Wasn't there a character in Alice in Wonderland who did that? Did Alice punch him in the face?”

Tags : Alice Alice In Wonderland Bob Tennant David Wong Questions As Statements Therapist Therapy
Author : David Wong
Source : This Book Is Full of Spiders: Seriously, Dude, Don't Touch It

137. “Want to get paid for watching daytime soaps? become a therapist!”

Tags : Therapist Therapy

138. “Back in grade school, my shrinks tried to channel my viciousness into a constructive outlet, so I cut things with scissors. Heavy, cheap fabrics Diane bought by the bolt. I sliced through them with old metal shears going up and down: hateyouhateyouhateyou. The soft growl of the fabrics as I sliced it apart, and that perfect last moment, when your thumb is getting sore and your shoulders hurt from hunching and cut, cut, cut... free, the fabric now swaying in two pieces in your hands, a curtain parted. And then what? That's how I felt now, like I'd been sawing away at something and come to the end and here I was by myself again, in my small house with no job, no family, and I was holding two ends of fabric and didn't know what to do next.”

Tags : Clueless Confusion Fabric Hate Life School Therapy
Author : Gillian Flynn
Source : Dark Places

139. “There are many ways of getting strong, sometimes talking is the best way.”

Tags : Strength Therapy
Author : Andre Agassi
Source : Open

140. “A combination of fine tea, enchanting objects and soothing surroundings exerts a therapeutic effect by washing away the corrosive strains and stress of modern life. [... It] induces a modd that is spiritually refreshing [and produces] a genial state of mind.”

Tags : Refreshment Soothing Stress Tea Therapy
Author : John Blofeld
Source : Chinese Art of Tea

141. “It is fear that makes you believe that you are living and that you will be dead.What we do not want is the fear to come to an end. That is why we have invented all these new minds, new sciences,new talks, therapies, choiceless awareness and various other gimmicks.”

Tags : Fear Psychology Religion Science Therapy

142. “Sorrow can be a bully.”

Tags : Grief Healing Therapy
Author : Amy Waldman
Source : The Submission

143. “When people recover from depression via psychotherapy, their attributions about recovery are likely to be different than those of people who have been treated with medication. Psychotherapy is a learning experience. Improvement is not produced by an external substance, but by changes within the person. It is like learning to read, write or ride a bicycle. Once you have learned, the skills stays with you. People no not become illiterate after they graduate from school, and if they get rusty at riding a bicycle, the skill can be acquired with relatively little practice. Furthermore, part of what a person might learn in therapy is to expect downturns in mood and to interpret them as a normal part of their life, rather than as an indication of an underlying disorder. This understanding, along with the skills that the person has learned for coping with negative moods and situations, can help to prevent a depressive relapse.”

Tags : Learning Prevention Skills Therapy Understanding
Author : Irving Kirsch
Source : The Emperor's New Drugs: Exploding the Antidepressant Myth

144. “A comedian is simply a different kind of therapist. A comedian is a psychologist and a psychiatrist rolled into one. Except I can't prescribe medicine. (You still need a doctorate, which is bullshit.) Okay, so I'm not like a psychiatrist. Fine. But I'm still like a psychologist (except I can't diagnose or treat mental illness).”

Tags : Humor Therapy
Author : Eugene Mirman
Source : The Will to Whatevs: A Guide to Modern Life

145. “I hear they make greeting cards now to thank your therapist... for NOTHING”

Tags : Dark Humor Humor Life Poetry Therapy
Source : Swan Wreck

146. “The air hangs thick with awkward static, like it usually does around the endless parade of therapists, social workers, and grief counselors. Does anyone feel comfortable in these tableaux of forced intimacy where you're meant to shine a light in your darkest corners for someone who is supposed to be nonjudgmental? As if there is such an animal”

Tags : Therapy
Source : Pretty

147. “Dr. S. talked to me about magical thinking. She was right. Much depends on chance, on what we can't control, on others. She did not say that writing to Boris was a bad idea, but then she never judged anything. That was her magic. [p. 85]”

Tags : Therapy
Author : Siri Hustvedt
Source : The Summer Without Men

148. “Gathered in the folding chairs of the meeting room, they made a diverse group with the drug-addicted, a perfect democracy of collapse.”

Tags : Therapy
Source : The Marriage Plot

149. “Growth is a slow process and so is change in behaviour. The therapist must be patient with the process.”

Tags : Change Counselling Personal Growth Therapy
Source : Play Therapy: The Art of the Relationship

150. “La terapia es como una bola de nieve que se deja caer desde la cima de una montaña. A medida que rueda aumenta y aumenta de tamaño y se convierte en una avalancha que se amolda a la forma de la montaña.”

Tags : Therapy
Source : My Voice Will Go with You: The Teaching Tales of Milton H. Erickson

151. “The Blue Mind Rx StatementOur wild waters provide vast cognitive, emotional, physical, psychological, social, and spiritual values for people from birth, through adolescence, adulthood, older age, and in death; wild waters provide a useful, widely available, and affordable range of treatments healthcare practitioners can incorporate into treatment plans.The world ocean and all waterways, including lakes, rivers, and wetlands (collectively, blue space), cover over 71% of our planet. Keeping them healthy, clean, accessible, and biodiverse is critical to human health and well-being. In addition to fostering more widely documented ecological, economic, and cultural diversities, our mental well-being, emotional diversity, and resiliency also rely on the global ecological integrity of our waters.Blue space gives us half of our oxygen, provides billions of people with jobs and food, holds the majority of Earth's biodiversity including species and ecosystems, drives climate and weather, regulates temperature, and is the sole source of hydration and hygiene for humanity throughout history. Neuroscientists and psychologists add that the ocean and wild waterways are a wellspring of happiness and relaxation, sociality and romance, peace and freedom, play and creativity, learning and memory, innovation and insight, elation and nostalgia, confidence and solitude, wonder and awe, empathy and compassion, reverence and beauty — and help manage trauma, anxiety, sleep, autism, addiction, fitness, attention/focus, stress, grief, PTSD, build personal resilience, and much more.Chronic stress and anxiety cause or intensify a range of physical and mental afflictions, including depression, ulcers, colitis, heart disease, and more. Being on, in, and near water can be among the most cost-effective ways of reducing stress and anxiety.We encourage healthcare professionals and advocates for the ocean, seas, lakes, and rivers to go deeper and incorporate the latest findings, research, and insights into their treatment plans, communications, reports, mission statements, strategies, grant proposals, media, exhibits, keynotes, and educational programs and to consider the following simple talking points: •Water is the essence of life: The ocean, healthy rivers, lakes, and wetlands are good for our minds and bodies.•Research shows that nature is therapeutic, promotes general health and well-being, and blue space in both urban and rural settings further enhances and broadens cognitive, emotional, psychological, social, physical, and spiritual benefits.•All people should have safe access to salubrious, wild, biodiverse waters for well-being, healing, and therapy.•Aquatic biodiversity has been directly correlated with the therapeutic potency of blue space. Immersive human interactions with healthy aquatic ecosystems can benefit both.•Wild waters can serve as medicine for caregivers, patient families, and all who are part of patients’ circles of support.•Realization of the full range and potential magnitude of ecological, economic, physical, intrinsic, and emotional values of wild places requires us to understand, appreciate, maintain, and improve the integrity and purity of one of our most vital of medicines — water.”

Tags : Blue Mind Healing Nature Ocean Therapy Water
Source : Blue Mind: The Surprising Science That Shows How Being Near, In, On, or Under Water Can Make You Happier, Healthier, More Connected, and Better at What You Do

152. “Don't label me just because you have a badge.”

Tags : Blame Guilt Therapy
Author : Stevo

153. “Dogs needed no words to console you. Dogs were the ultimate practitioners of the therapy of touch. Dogs knew and accepted the hard realities of life that human beings could not acknowledge until those obvious truths were exhaustively described with words, and even then there was often more bitter acknowledgment than humble acceptance.”

Tags : Dogs Therapy
Author : Dean Koontz
Source : Ashley Bell

154. “Every brain is different. And so must be every course of therapy.”

Tags : All Is Not Forgotten Brain Therapy Thinking Wendy Walker
Author : Wendy Walker
Source : All Is Not Forgotten

155. “A psychologist’s job (if it’s done well) is to get you to seriously laugh at yourself.”

Tags : Acceptance Healing Psychology Therapy

156. “The cultural past is rigidly deterministic to the extent that the individual is unaware of it. An analogy, of course, is found in any psychoanalytic treatment: the patient is rigidly determined by past experiences and previously developed patterns to the extent that he is unaware of these experiences and patterns.”

Tags : Awareness Culture Therapy
Author : Rollo May
Source : The Meaning of Anxiety

157. “You still go to therapy?""Nah. I gave up years ago.""Mental health isn't for everyone.”

Tags : Therapy
Source : One Last Thing Before I Go

158. “Instead of using therapy to try and reduce their fear and anger, people now celebrated these destructive emotions, labeling themselves as politically active rather than emotionally dysfunctional.”

Tags : Destructive Emotions Emotionally Dysfunctional Politically Active Politics Therapy
Source : The Meditating Psychiatrist Who Tried to Kill Himself

159. “Words of comfort, skillfully administered, are the oldest therapy known to man.”

Tags : Therapy Words
Author : Louis Nizer

160. “You still go to therapy?""Nah. I gave up years ago.""Mental health ins't for everyone.”

Tags : Therapy
Source : One Last Thing Before I Go

161. “The quick ticket to ecstasy is to catch yourself feeling in a very low state of mind--depressed, stupid, hateful--and to love yourself for feeling that way. When you do that you can experience a rocket ride right to the top. Love does not take time; it's possible to transform depression into ecstasy in a flash. But please do not accept my word for it. Try it as an experiment next time you are feeling low. Something else to consider is that we will always be in the process of remembering how to love ourselves, then forgetting, then remembering again. It does not seem to be our destiny to be any one way all the time. So let's get used to being pendulums and enjoy the ride.”

Tags : Selflove Therapy
Author : Gay Hendricks
Source : Learning to Love Yourself

162. “Laughing is so therapeutic but what is even more therapeutic is having someone laugh out loud with you.”

Tags : Connection Friendship Laughing Loveyourselfmovement Therapy

163. “I honestly didn’t realize at the time that I was dealing with myself. But I suppose it’s true that I developed a therapy that provides the things I needed for so many years and never got.”

Tags : Borderline Personality Disorder Dbt Mental Illness Therapy

164. “Learning how to do psychotherapy is a complex process, much of which is transacted in the relationship between the beginning therapists and experienced supervisors. When the beginning therapists encounter problems that are beyond their range of experience, the supervisors usually assist in several ways. First, the supervisors offer an intellectualframework in which to understand the problem. References to the professional literature are often suggested. Second, the supervisors offer practical, problem-solving help with the strategies of therapy. Third and most important, the supervisors help the less experienced therapists to deal with feelings of their own that have been evoked by the patients. With the support of competent supervisors, the therapists are usually able to master their own troubled feelings and put them in perspective.This done, the therapists are better able to attend to patients with empathy, and with a confidence in their ability to offer help.”

Tags : Counseling Counselling Psychotherapy Supervision Therapy
Source : Father-Daughter Incest: With a New Afterword

165. “Part of the discipline of the person-centred approach is not to make assumptions about the client's appropriate process, but to follow the process laid out by the client.”

Tags : Autonomy Counselling Nondirectiveness Person Centred Process Therapy
Author : Dave Mearns
Source : Person-Centred Therapy Today: New Frontiers in Theory and Practice

166. “When we are told what is healthy we are being told what is right to think and feel. When we are told what is mentally ill we are being told what ideas, behaviour, and fantasies are wrong. [...] The avenues of escape are blocked by the professioal abuse of pathologizing. To refuse the mental health approach confirms one's 'sickness'. One needs 'therapy', [...] How can we take back therapy [...] from a system which must find illness in order to promote health and which, in order to increase the range of its helping, is obliged to extend the area of sickness. Ever deeper pockets of pathology to be analyzed, ever earlier traumata: primal, prenatal, into my astral body; ever more people into the ritual: the family, the office force, community mental health, analysis for everyone. [...] Its practice may differ [...] but the premise is the same. The work of making soul requires professional help. Soul-making has become restricted by therapy and to therapy. And psychopathology has become restricted to therapy's negative definition of it, reduced to its role in the therapy game.”

Tags : Illness Mental Health Mental Illness Sickness Therapy
Author : James Hillman
Source : Re-Visioning Psychology

167. “Equally as therapeutic was the fact that disaster did not come.”

Tags : Anxiety Therapy
Author : Daniel Smith

168. “My therapist and I even have a joke about it: shit is truly fucked up when I start threatening to take a road trip.”

Tags : Adventure Road Trip Therapy
Author : Chris Gethard

169. “In a world where we seem to be beset by a trend towards 'manualising treatment modalities' the person-centred approach stands and says NO, that is not the way forward.”

Tags : Authority Counselling Manualisation Pct Person Centered Power Professionalisation Resistance Therapy
Source : Counselling a Survivor of Child Sexual Abuse: A Person-Centred Dialogue

170. “Most of the time, we don’t do therapy with children. We do therapy through children with adults who prefer not to examine themselves.”

Tags : Children Therapy

171. “Sometimes silence is the only therapy you need.”

Tags : Loveyourselfmovement Silence Therapy

172. “La ocupación sin pausa era una especie de terapia. La servicialidad agresiva disimulaba el hecho de que, en algún sentido importante, era de poca utilidad.”

Tags : Ocupación Terapia Therapy
Source : So Much for That

173. “The attempt to escape from pain, is what creates more pain.”

Tags : Addiction Bravery Consciousness Courage Denial Dissociation Mindfulness Psychology Repression Self Knowledge Therapy Wellbeing
Author : Gabor Maté

174. “You can be broken into a dozen shattered pieces and still heal the world because service has its own medicine--hope.”

Tags : Altruism Broken Giving Happiness Healing Hope Loving Peace Service Therapy Wounds

175. “Avoidance therapy does not work. One major reason for that is because Avoidance Therapy (diversion, think yourself happy, positive affirmations) is predicated on the validity of 'Failure of Will.' Depression is not a choice.”

Tags : Avoidance Choice Depression Despair Diversion Therapy
Source : Mickey and the Gargoyle

176. “I've always had this feeling," Henry says, "that all dogs are really therapy dogs.”

Tags : Dogs Dogs And Humans Therapy Therapy Dogs
Author : Meg Donohue
Source : Dog Crazy: A Novel of Love Lost and Found

177. “Modern Western democracies no longer engage in such despotic assaults on freedom, Instead, they deprive people of liberty indirectly, by relieving them of responsibility for their own (allegedly self-injurious) actions and calling the intervention "treatment.”

Tags : Libertarianism Liberty Protectionism Therapy
Author : Thomas Szasz
Source : Cruel Compassion: Psychiatric Control of Society's Unwanted

178. “A vast amount of psychiatric effort has been, and continues to be, devoted to legal and quasi-legal activities. In my opinion, the only certain result has been the aggrandizement of psychiatry. The value to the legal profession and to society as a whole of psychiatric help in administering the criminal law, is, to say the least, uncertain. Perhaps society has been injured, rather than helped, by the furor psychodiagnosticus and psychotherapeuticus in criminology which it invited, fostered, and tolerated.”

Tags : Coercion Criminal Law Involuntary Commitment Mental Illness Personal Responsibility Psychiatry Therapeutic State Therapy
Author : Thomas Szasz
Source : Law, Liberty and Psychiatry

179. “The first thing you need to know if you are a survivor is that parts of you have probably been trained to create a variety of symptoms and behaviours. Abusers actually train child parts to cut the body, to make other parts cut, to attempt suicide, to create flashbacks by releasing pieces of visual or auditory memories, to create body memories of pain or electroshock, and to create depression, terror, anxiety, and despair by releasing the emotional components of memories to the rest of the personality system. The front person and most of the rest of the system do not know that this is the source of these feelings and behaviours. p126”

Tags : Dissociative Identity Disorder Mind Control Psychology Psychotherapy Ritual Abuse Therapy
Author : Alison Miller
Source : Becoming Yourself: Overcoming Mind Control and Ritual Abuse

180. “The best way to overcome depression is to work it to death. Whether it be your body or your mind, just be active and some relief you’ll find.”

Tags : Depression Psychology Relief Therapy
Source : Stantasyland: Quips Quotes and Quandaries

181. “The fear of what might happen stops people but the trauma process is so beautiful and transformational. There is nothing to fear in our emotions, they will not swallow you whole - they will speak to you in profound ways.”

Tags : Emotional Trauma Emotions Suppressing Emotions Therapy Trauma Healing
Author : Adele Theron

182. “Punishment symptoms Many of the other types of programming produce psychiatric symptoms, usually administered as punishments by insiders who are trained to administer them, if the survivor has breached security or disobeyed the abusers' instructions in other ways. These symptoms serve a variety of purposes, such as disrupting therapy, getting the survivor into hospital, or getting the survivor to return to the perpetrators to have the programming reinforced. p126”

Tags : Dissociative Identity Disorder Mind Control Psychology Psychotherapy Ritual Abuse Therapy
Author : Alison Miller
Source : Becoming Yourself: Overcoming Mind Control and Ritual Abuse

183. “We can't leave the past in the past because, the past is who we are. It's like saying I wish I could forget English. So, there is no leaving the past in the past. It doesn't mean the past has to define and dominate everything in the future. The fact that I had a temper in my teens doesn't mean I have to be an angry person for the rest of my life. It just means that I had allot to be angry about but, didn't have the language and the understanding to know what it was and how big it was. I thought my anger was disproportionate to the environment which is what is called having a bad temper but, it just means that I underestimated the environment and my anger was telling me how wide and deep child abuse is in society but, I didn't understand that consciously so I thought my anger was disproportionate to the environment but, it wasn't. There is almost no amount of anger that's proportionate to the degree of child abuse in the world. The fantasy that you can not be somebody that lived through what you lived through is damaging to yourself and to your capacity to relate to others. People who care about you, people who are going to grow to love you need to know who you are and that you were shaped by what you've experienced for better and for worse. There is a great deal of challenge in talking about these issues. Lots of people in this world have been hurt as children. Most people have been hurt in this world as children and when you talk honestly and openly it's very difficult for people. This is why it continues and continues.If you can get to the truth of what happened if you can understand why people made the decisions they've made even if you dont agree with the reason for those decisions knowing the reasons for those decisions is enormously important in my opinion. The more we know the truth of history the more confidently we can face the future without self blame.”

Tags : Anger Childhood Children Confidence Family Family Relationships Psychology Relationships The Past Therapy

184. “Support has no direction. Our plan is to hold the patient - to strengthen the container - until the patient develops his own container-strengths or until the contents settle down. We do not know just how or when all this ought to happen. Worse we do not have a particularly cogent rationale for limiting our own actions...”

Tags : Psychotherapy Support Therapy
Source : Moments of Engagement: Intimate Psychotherapy in a Technological Age

185. “In supportive work, the therapist cedes great control to the patient. It may seem otherwise. The therapist is setting limits, perhaps implicitly commenting on the patient's behavior or sense of self, and so forth, and on the surface it seems that the therapist is taking responsibility for the patient's progress. but all this activity leads nowhere except, if we succeed, to stability. In supportive therapy, change arises in a more or less miraculous way , through the patient's suddenly feeling secure enough to move in a certain direction, perhaps one unanticipated by the therapist. It is this pathless quality of supportive work - the degree of blind faith it requires of the therapist - that makes it most uncomfortable.”

Tags : Psychotherapy Support Therapy
Source : Moments of Engagement: Intimate Psychotherapy in a Technological Age

186. “Therapy entails the conceptual machinery to ensure that actual or potential deviants stay within the institutionalized definitions of reality, or, in other words, to prevent "inhabitants" of a given universe from "emigrating". It does this by applying the legitimating apparatus to individual "cases". Since ever society faces the danger of individual deviance, we may assume that therapy in one form or another is a global social phenomena. Its specific institutional arrangements, from exorcism to psycho-analysis, from pastoral care to personal counseling programmes, belong, of course, under the category of social control. [...] Since therapy must concern itself with deviations from the "official" definition of reality, it must develop a machinery to account for such deviations and to maintain the realities thus challenged. This requires a body of knowledge that include a theory of deviance, a diagnostic apparatus, and a conceptual system for the "cure of souls".”

Tags : Psychology Sociology Spirituality Therapy

187. “I am an actress of life, the world is my stage. Trained to fit in and yet I still fail.”

Tags : Autism Therapy

188. “Disclosure without therapy is the second rape of the child.”

Tags : Child Child Protection Rape Therapy
Author : Jean G. Moore
Source : The ABC of Child Protection

189. “Your past doesn't define who you are. Biography isn't Destiny.”

Tags : Self Help Therapy
Author : Kathryn Perez

190. “There's no weakness as great as false strength.”

Tags : Abuse Childhood Trauma False Self Psychology Self Esteem Self Knowledge Therapy Trauma

191. “The manic relief that comes from the fantasy that we can with one savage slash cut the chains of the past and rise like a phoenix, free of all history, is generally a tipping point into insanity, akin to believing that we can escape the endless constraints of gravity, and fly off a tall building. “I’m freeeee… SPLAT!”.”

Tags : Abuse Avoidance Child Abuse Childhood Trauma Crazy Denial Madness Psychology Psychotherapy Self Knowledge Therapy Trauma Unhealthy

192. “If you examine your motive for doing anything, you'll soon discover that your reason is that you believe it will make you happy.”

Tags : Addiction Balance Happiness Holistic Health Inspire Medications Motivate Passages Malibu Passages Ventura Self Care Self Love Substance Abuse Therapy
Source : The Alcoholism and Addiction Cure

193. “This book is dedicated to those who have died as a result of mind control and/or ritual abuse, and those who have lived when they would rather have died.”

Tags : Abuse Abuse Survivor Death Mind Control Psychology Recovery Ritual Abuse Sra Suicidal Suicide Survivor Therapy Victim
Author : Alison Miller
Source : Becoming Yourself: Overcoming Mind Control and Ritual Abuse

194. “One of the best ways of repressing emotions is artificial certainty.”

Tags : Abuse Survivors Child Abuse Childhood Trauma Psychology Self Esteem Self Knowledge Therapy Trauma

195. “The responses of traumatized children are often misinterpreted...Because new situations are inherently stressful, and because youth who have been through trauma often come from homes in which chaos and unpredictability appear "normal" to them, they may respond with fear to what is actually a calm and safe situation. Attempting to take control of what they believe is the inevitable return of chaos, they appear to " provoke" it in order to make things feel more comfortable and predictable. Thus, the "honeymoon" period in foster care will end as the child behaves defiantly and destructively in order to prompt familiar screaming and harsh discipline. Like everyone else, they feel more comfortable with what is "familiar". As one family therapist famously put it, we tend to prefer the "certainty of misery to the misery of uncertainty".”

Tags : Therapy
Author : Bruce Perry
Source : The Boy Who Was Raised as a Dog: And Other Stories from a Child Psychiatrist's Notebook

196. “The benefit of personal growth and self-discovery is that we become better human beings with the strength to endure and carry on, and then we may experience something magical when we begin to reach out to others. We discover a feeling that is so rewarding and fulfilling: that fact that we can make a difference. Here is to your willingness to begin with making a difference with yourself!Michael James”

Tags : Affirmations Counseling Personal Growth Self Discovery Self Help Book Self Help Ebooks Self Help For Men Self Help For Women Self Help Inspirational Spiritual Growth Spriritual Awakening Therapy Workshops
Author : Michael James
Source : Discovering Michael: An Inspirational Guide to Personal Growth & Self-Discovery

197. “Untraumatized people have a natural instinct to make healthy decisions in the best interest of their true selves. They are only limited by their immaturity and the brokenness of their external world.”

Tags : Child Abuse Psychology Self Growth Self Help Therapy Trauma

198. “[T]he act of revealing oneself fully to another and still being accepted may be the major vehicle of therapeutic help.”

Tags : Therapy

199. “My training makes me uneasy with a happy mystery.”

Tags : Depression Psychology Therapy Training
Source : The Depths: The Evolutionary Origins of the Depression Epidemic

200. “I've had a lot of therapists, so I've had the opportunity to approach my fear in many different ways. I've faced it head on and sideways and tried to tiptoe up behind it.”

Tags : Anxiety Counseling Depression Healing Humor Mental Health Recovery Therapy
Author : Anna White
Source : Mended: Thoughts on Life, Love, and Leaps of Faith